What to say when a girl says she needs to figure herself out?

Figure yourself out is a phrase people use when they want to stop something without having to give a reason. It is not an invitation to diagnose her. Look at what came before it. If the last few messages were short, or she stopped starting conversations, the phrase is confirming something that was already true. If things were warm and then she says this out of nowhere, she may be reacting to something she did not like, or to pressure she felt from how fast things were moving.

Do not treat the vagueness as a puzzle to solve. She has told you what she wants without explaining why, and that is a complete message. Take it at face value. Some people who say this come back. Most who say it mean for now, and one text will not tell you which.

A few kinds of reply fit here. The first is a plain acknowledgement: you understand, you respect the space, and you won't push. Keep it to a sentence or two, with no question at the end. The second is a warm close. It thanks her for the time you did spend together and says you hope she finds what she is looking for. It has a little more warmth, but it should still end without asking anything of her.

A third option is a light door-left-open message, saying you would be glad to hear from her once she has settled. Only use this if you actually mean it. A draft is working when a reader would not feel obligated to reply. It has gone wrong when it contains a question, a request for detail, a reminder of plans, or any mention of how you feel about the decision. Leave all of those out.

Send one reply and then wait. A day is usually enough. Don't follow up to check she got it, and don't send a second message to add something you forgot. If she writes back, match her length and tone and keep it low-key. If she doesn't reply at all, that is most of your answer.

After a week or two of silence, you can send one short message, but only if it is light and asks nothing. Something like a quick hope you are doing well. If that also goes unanswered, stop. A reply after that point usually comes from her wanting a clean ending, not from wanting you back, so don't treat it as a second chance to make your case.