Asking someone out over text

How to use these

• Name the place and the day. Sometime soon is where plans go to die.
• Keep it low stakes for a first meeting. A drink or coffee is easier to accept than dinner.
• Give them a clean out. No pressure if you are busy costs you nothing and makes yes easier.

These are shapes, not scripts. A line that has been sent by a thousand people reads like one, and the good version of any of these has a detail in it that only applies to the person you are talking to.

32 ideas

1. 1

   Want to get coffee Thursday after work? Easy out if the week is a mess.

2. 2

   I would like to take you on a real date. Saturday afternoon walk, then we decide on food.

3. 3

   Free Wednesday? There is a patio I like. No speech, just a yes or a rain check.

4. 4

   Can I see you this week? Thursday, 6:30, that bar we already named.

5. 5

   I am asking you out. Market Saturday morning. You can say no.

6. 6

   Let us skip another week of texting. Drink Friday.

7. 7

   I have a place and a time. You have a veto. Thursday evening.

8. 8

   Would you want to do this in person? Coffee, daylight, this weekend.

9. 9

   Clear ask: date, not hang. Sunday afternoon.

10. 10

    I like talking to you. I would like to do it across a table. Wednesday?

11. 11

    Two options: walk Thursday or coffee Saturday. Pick one or rewrite it.

12. 12

    I am free after 6 most weeknights. Tell me a day and I will pick a spot.

13. 13

    Can I take you out this week. That is the sentence.

14. 14

    If you are in, I will handle the place. If you are not, no weirdness. Friday?

15. 15

    I want a first date that has an end time. Museum hour, then we see.

16. 16

    Asking before I overthink it. Are you around Thursday?

17. 17

    This chat is good. It would be better in person. Saturday?

18. 18

    Low-key date: neighborhood walk and a taco. Yes?

19. 19

    I will not do sometime soon. I will do Friday at 7.

20. 20

    You can say you are busy. You can also say yes. Coffee this week?

21. 21

    I would like to meet you. Public, easy, this weekend.

22. 22

    Plan: drinks Wednesday. Backup: coffee Saturday. You choose.

23. 23

    I am not hinting. I am asking. Date on Thursday?

24. 24

    If the answer is not yet, tell me a better week. If it is yes, I will send a pin.

25. 25

    Want to find out if this is as easy in person? Friday evening.

26. 26

    I have been enjoying this. Next step is a place. You in?

27. 27

    Ask: walk Sunday, daylight, no marathon.

28. 28

    I will make it easy to decline. I would still like to see you Saturday.

29. 29

    One date. One neighborhood. Thursday.

30. 30

    Can we move this off the phone. Coffee, this week, your side of town.

31. 31

    I want to take you out. That is the text.

32. 32

    If you are free Friday I would like to use it on you.