OkCupid openers and replies
OkCupid profiles are long, which means there is no excuse for a generic opener.
The answers and essays on OkCupid tell you what someone cares about, so the openers that work here are specific and often a little more substantial than on swipe first apps.
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The essays are the advantage
OkCupid asks people to write in full sentences about themselves, which is more raw material than any other mainstream app hands you. Sending a one line greeting on top of that is a strange choice.
You do not need to reference everything. One thing she wrote, with a real reaction to it, does more than a summary of her whole profile. Quoting three separate essays back at her reads like a book report.
Match percentages are conversation material
The percentage itself does not predict much. What is useful is the individual questions behind it, because they tell you where you obviously agree and where you obviously do not.
A specific disagreement is often a better opener than a specific agreement. Agreement gives her nothing to say. A polite argument about something low stakes gives her plenty.
Longer chats still need a direction
Because the profiles are detailed, OkCupid conversations tend to run longer and go deeper than they do elsewhere. That is pleasant right up until it becomes a pen pal situation.
Keep an eye on whether the thread is going anywhere. If you have had three good exchanges and neither of you has mentioned meeting, the conversation has quietly become the point rather than the route.
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Examples of the shape, not scripts. Send one of these word for word and it reads like something you found, so swap the detail for something off her actual profile.
She wrote a long self summary
“You buried the interesting part in the last line of that self summary. Explain the year in Lisbon.”
You disagree on a question
“We agree on almost everything except the one about camping, which I think makes you objectively wrong. Defend it.”
Her profile lists specific books
“Anyone listing that book without irony has opinions. Was it the ending or the first hundred pages that got you?”
She replied with a long message
“That was a much better answer than my question deserved. Following up on the part about your old job.”
Time to suggest meeting
“We are three essays deep at this point. Easier over a drink, are you around this week?”
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Questions people ask about OkCupid
- What is a good first message on OkCupid?
- Pick one thing from the profile that you have a real reaction to and lead with that. The extra profile detail is the advantage of this app, so use it instead of sending something that could go to anyone.
- How long should an OkCupid message be?
- A couple of sentences is plenty. Long enough to show you read the profile, short enough that replying does not feel like homework.
- Do match percentages matter on OkCupid?
- They give you conversation material more than anything else. A high match on a specific question is a natural thing to bring up in an opener.
- Should I answer a lot of the questions?
- Answer enough that the matching has something to work with, and prioritise the ones you actually care about. Those are the ones worth being matched or unmatched on.
- My OkCupid chats turn into pen pals. How do I fix that?
- Suggest something specific earlier than feels natural. Long thoughtful threads are enjoyable, but they can substitute for meeting rather than lead to it.
- Is it worth writing a long profile?
- Yes, on this app more than most. Every detail you add is another thing someone can open with, which is the whole reason OkCupid openers tend to be better.
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