He agreed to meet then went quiet? Here's what to send

Start by checking what he actually committed to. If he said yes but never named a day, time, or place, the plan was loose from the start, and his drop off may just be the plan dying quietly. If he gave a specific time and then vanished, look at what he said right before going quiet. A line like 'let me check my week' or 'I'll confirm tomorrow' that never got followed up is a common sign of someone who meant yes but never sorted the details. Rejection usually looks different. He replies briefly, cools the tone, or answers your questions with one word. Silence right after a concrete plan is more often avoidance than a no. Avoidance still needs a response from you, but it changes how hard you push. Also notice whether he was slow to commit before the date was set. Someone who dodged earlier questions will probably keep dodging.

Your message should lower the cost of replying. A vague note asking if he's still in gives him an easy reason to avoid it, because any honest answer requires explaining himself. Put one concrete option on the table, such as a specific day and a short coffee slot, and let him pick it or decline with a single word. Keep the tone light and skip any review of what went wrong. Leave out a second question, because two asks give him two places to dodge. If you already have a venue in mind, name it so he can picture the evening instead of wondering whether you'll keep sending more suggestions. The point is to make yes the simplest answer, and to make a non answer obvious without you having to say so.

Give him about a day after your first message, or until the day you'd planned to meet, whichever comes first. If the plan was for tonight, a message late morning is reasonable, but a message at six in the evening can feel like pressure. One follow up is enough. If he doesn't answer that, send nothing else for a few days and let the silence do its work. A second message carries less weight than the first, and a third almost always reads as chasing. If he comes back with an apology and a new suggestion, meet him there, but only if the new plan has a day and a time attached. Stop after two unanswered messages with no change, and don't send a closing note explaining that you're done.