What should I text a girl after not talking for a while?

Before you write anything, look at what the silence actually looks like from her side. If the last exchange ended with a question she never answered, or with you going quiet, she may have read the drop-off as a decision you made. If the thread just trailed off with both of you busy, she probably has not noticed the gap at all. Those two situations call for different levels of warmth in the message.

In either case, the message is not a referendum on the relationship. It is a small test of whether she wants to keep talking. Her reply, even a short one, tells you whether there is energy there. A reply that takes a day and is friendly tells you one thing. No reply tells you another. Do not read a slow answer as rejection. Read a missing answer as information, and act on it.

The strongest re-openers hook onto a specific detail from your last real exchange. Pick something she said, not something you said. A job interview, a trip, a friend, a show she was watching. Then say something that shows you were paying attention and that the thing is still interesting to you. The message should be easy to answer in one line, and it should leave a clear opening for her to continue.

What to leave out is the summary of your own life since then. A list of what you have been up to reads as a broadcast. Keep the focus on her and on the shared thread. If you want to say something about yourself, one small detail tied to the topic is enough.

Timing changes how the message reads. A text sent late at night, after a few drinks or during a stretch when you have been thinking about her, comes across as a bid for attention. A text sent in the late morning or early afternoon reads as a casual thought you had during the day. Pick a time when you would send the same message to a friend.

After you send it, leave it. If she answers within a day or two, match her pace and let the thread pick up. If there is no reply after about four or five days, send one short follow-up that adds nothing new, or let it rest. If there is still nothing after that second attempt, stop. A third message at that point is pressure, and it will make a later reconnection harder even if she is open to one.