Should I ask him about his dating app activity

People stay active on apps for different reasons. Maybe he hasn't deleted it yet because he's lazy or forgetful. Maybe he checks it once a week. Maybe he's actively looking. The activity status itself does not tell you what his intentions are or how he feels about you.

What it does tell you is whether he's had that conversation with himself about being off the market. Most people don't delete the app until they've explicitly decided to be exclusive with someone. So if he's still active, it usually means he hasn't made that decision yet. That's information you need. But it's not the same as him rejecting you. It's a status question, not a feelings question.

A good approach treats the question as casual fact-finding, not a test. You're asking the same way you'd ask if he got a haircut or if he's free Friday. No judgment baked in. No "I saw you were on there" or "I hope you deleted it." Those versions make him feel caught and make the whole thing weird.

Your move is to ask straightforwardly, give him space to answer honestly, and then use his answer to decide what you want to do next. If he's still active and you want exclusivity, that's a real conversation to have. But you can't have that conversation if you ask the first question like you're already mad at him.

Here's the thing. Whether he says yes or no or gets defensive, your next step depends on what you actually want. Do you want exclusivity. Then you need to say that regardless of his app status. Do you want to keep things casual. Then his activity doesn't matter. Do you not know yet. Then you're asking too soon.

If he avoids answering or says he doesn't know, that's information too. It means he hasn't thought about it or doesn't want to. You get to decide if that works for you. The point of asking is not to catch him or prove something. It's to understand where he's at so you can decide what you're doing.