How to tell her you felt excluded when she only talked about her friends

This pattern usually means she's stressed and used that time to vent without noticing she was doing all the talking. She was comfortable enough with you to ramble, which is actually a good sign underneath. Or she hasn't thought much about making space for you in the conversation yet. The real thing to address is how you felt, not why she did it. You felt present but invisible. She probably didn't wake up thinking 'I'm going to make him feel excluded today.' It just happened because the conversation drifted and nobody steered it back.

Don't wait for her to magically sense you felt left out. She won't. Your reply needs to describe what happened in a way she can picture it, then connect it to how you felt. Skip words like 'always' or 'only' because they sound like complaints about her character. Instead, point to the specific time and what you noticed. Then tell her what you actually wanted. You wanted her thoughts on something. You wanted to hear about her day too. You wanted to feel like part of the conversation instead of an audience. This move is about being specific enough that she knows exactly what to do differently, and honest enough that she believes you actually care about the time you spend together.

Bring this up within a day or two while the conversation is still in both your minds. If you wait a week, it looks like you've been holding a grudge. If you text her right after or a few hours later, it's fresh and she can actually remember how the talk went and what you mean. Keep it to one message. Don't build a case or list examples. One honest observation is enough. If she gets defensive or dismisses you, that tells you something important about how she handles feedback. If she doesn't respond or responds with 'ok sorry' and changes nothing, then you know whether this is worth pushing on or moving on from. But give her one clean shot to hear you first.