Is it rude to answer briefly when someone asks lots of questions?

No, a short answer is fine. The issue isn't length, it's one-sidedness. If your answer is short but includes something they can respond to, it reads as normal conversation. If it's short and ends the thread, it reads as disinterest. Aim for one line of real information plus one thing they could ask about next.

What if they keep asking questions even after I've given a proper answer?

Then the pattern is probably their default and not a reaction to you. Give it one more try by making a statement that invites a reaction rather than an answer. If the next message is another question with nothing about themselves in it, you have your answer about how the conversation is going to go.

Should I just ask them a question back to even things out?

Not straight away. A question back usually keeps the format going, just in reverse. It's better to offer a fact or small story first and let them decide whether to ask about it. If they don't, you can ask one question later, once there's something on the table to ask about.

How long should I wait before I reply to a burst of questions?

A few minutes is usually enough, long enough that you're replying to the whole burst at once rather than each question as it lands. Waiting several hours is fine too if you're busy, but don't leave a burst unanswered for a day. Replying in one message rather than three also slows the rhythm down, which helps more than the timing does.

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How to respond to someone who asks too many questions?

How to respond when someone keeps firing questions at you in a chat, and how to get back to an actual conversation without seeming cold.

Read the situation

When someone asks question after question, they're usually trying to get to know you quickly, or they're nervous and reaching for something to say. Either way, the thread feels like an interview. You're answering, but nothing is coming back to you, and that's the part that wears you down.

A good reply does two things. It gives a short, honest answer to what was asked, so they feel heard. Then it hands the conversation back by saying one thing about yourself or something you're doing, so the next move is theirs to answer instead of yours to ask.

You're not trying to shut them down or teach them a lesson. You're trying to turn a quiz into two people talking.

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Read the questions before you read the person

A string of questions in the first few messages usually comes from one of two places. Either they're curious and want to find out fast whether there's anything there, or they're anxious and the questions keep the chat alive without them having to say anything about themselves. You can tell the difference by what they do with your answers. If they pick up one detail and run with it, they're curious. If they jump straight to the next question on the list, they're managing a conversation rather than having one.

Look at whether the questions are about you or about facts. "What do you do?" is a fact-finding question. "What made you pick that?" is interest in you. The first kind is easy to answer briefly. The second kind is an opening, so give it a sentence or two more.

Answer short, then open a door

The shape that tends to work is a brief answer to the most recent question, followed by one statement they can react to. Pick the question that sounds like it matters most to them, answer it in a line, then add a fact or a small story they could ask about. Make it something they could follow up on without having to invent a question from scratch.

Leave out a second question of your own. Adding one restarts the interview. A reply that's mostly statement with a little answer tells them the ball is in their court. It should feel like you're talking, not reporting.

Let the thread breathe before you send

If you reply straight away to every burst, the conversation turns into a rapid quiz with no gaps for either of you to think. Give it a few minutes, or wait until you have something you actually want to say, and send one message instead of three. That alone changes the rhythm. If they keep firing questions after you've given a real answer, that tells you something too.

If you're not getting anything back after a couple of replies, don't chase with more questions. Send one short message later in the day or the next day. If that also goes unanswered, let it go. Someone who only asks and never offers anything back isn't going to become a good conversation with more effort from you.

Do not send

Why these replies fail

“Oh I grew up in Leeds, I have one brother, I'm a nurse, I love it mostly, and on weekends I usually just sleep in and watch stuff. Are you a morning person?”
It answers everything and then asks another question, so the interview carries on with you still doing all the work.
“Lol you ask a lot of questions haha”
It points at the pattern without giving anything back, which reads as a mild complaint and leaves them nothing to say.
“Leeds. Nurse. Brother. You?”
It's a clipped list that answers in fragments and hands the next question straight back to them, which just keeps the quiz going.

Avoid these

Common mistakes

Answering all six questions in one long paragraph, which just invites six more.
Replying with one word each time and letting the silence do the work.
Asking a question back straight away, which keeps the interview going in the other direction.
Going cold or sarcastic about how many questions there are.
Waiting too long to reply, then sending a flurry to make up for it.

Questions people ask

Is it rude to answer briefly when someone asks lots of questions?: No, a short answer is fine. The issue isn't length, it's one-sidedness. If your answer is short but includes something they can respond to, it reads as normal conversation. If it's short and ends the thread, it reads as disinterest. Aim for one line of real information plus one thing they could ask about next.
What if they keep asking questions even after I've given a proper answer?: Then the pattern is probably their default and not a reaction to you. Give it one more try by making a statement that invites a reaction rather than an answer. If the next message is another question with nothing about themselves in it, you have your answer about how the conversation is going to go.
Should I just ask them a question back to even things out?: Not straight away. A question back usually keeps the format going, just in reverse. It's better to offer a fact or small story first and let them decide whether to ask about it. If they don't, you can ask one question later, once there's something on the table to ask about.
How long should I wait before I reply to a burst of questions?: A few minutes is usually enough, long enough that you're replying to the whole burst at once rather than each question as it lands. Waiting several hours is fine too if you're busy, but don't leave a burst unanswered for a day. Replying in one message rather than three also slows the rhythm down, which helps more than the timing does.

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