How to reply to generic 'hey how are you' texts
Respond to generic openers without being bland or trying too hard. Turn a lazy message into real conversation.
A generic 'hey how are you' text usually means she's interested but hasn't thought much about what to say, or she's testing whether you'll engage. Either way, the message itself tells you almost nothing about her and demands almost nothing from you.
Your reply has one job: prove you're worth a real conversation. That doesn't mean being clever or funny on demand. It means actually responding to her, not to the template she sent. Pick something real to say back and give her something specific to reply to.
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Generic openers usually mean she likes your profile
If someone matches with you and sends 'hey how are you', she saw something worth messaging. The generic part isn't rejection. It's just low effort, which happens for lots of reasons: she's busy, she matches with many people, she wasn't sure what to say, or she's waiting to see if you actually engage before investing.
The text is a test more than a real question. She wants to see if you'll be boring back or if you'll give her something to work with. Treat it as an opening, not a conversation.
Answer her without answering her question
Don't say 'I'm doing well' and expect her to suddenly care. Instead, acknowledge the message, say something honest about what you're actually doing right now or thinking about, and ask her something that isn't just a mirror of what she asked. Be human, be specific, show interest in her as a person.
You're not being rude by not answering directly. You're being efficient. You're trading a dead-end exchange for a real one. Make it easy for her to say something that isn't also generic.
Send it within a few hours during day or early evening
Respond while the conversation is still fresh and while you're actually doing something or thinking clearly. A 3am response to a 'hey how are you' looks like you're sitting around waiting for matches to message you. Same with waiting 8 hours to reply to someone who messaged you an hour ago.
If she doesn't reply within 24 hours after you give her something real to work with, she's either not interested or distracted. One follow-up after a few days is fair. After that, move on. Don't keep trying to entertain someone who isn't meeting you halfway.
Why these replies fail
“I'm doing good thanks, how are you?”
You answered her question but added nothing. Now she has to generate another generic opener or the conversation stops.
“lol why is this always the first message haha”
You're making fun of her for being generic instead of moving the conversation forward. It reads as lazy and puts her on the defensive.
“Hey! Just finished a run and about to grab coffee. I've been meaning to get back into running after a pretty stressful few weeks at work. What about you, what's going on?”
You told a whole story about yourself when she asked a simple question. Now she feels obligated to match your energy and effort.
Common mistakes
- Answering her question directly and stopping ('I'm doing great, thanks for asking')
- Turning it around immediately ('Good, how are you?' or 'can't complain, you?')
- Trying to be funny about how generic the message is
- Writing something long and demanding about yourself
- Sending it late at night or when you're clearly bored
Questions people ask
- Should I ask about something from her profile?
- Only if you have a real comment or question about it. Don't force it. A response that mentions one specific detail beats asking a new question about something unrelated. Show you looked at her profile without making it obvious you're studying her.
- How do I avoid sounding try-hard?
- Say something true. Tell her what you're actually doing that moment or ask what she's up to without making it a performance. Short, direct, and human beats long and clever. Let the conversation earn its jokes.
- What if she doesn't respond to my reply?
- She either lost interest, got busy, or wasn't that invested. One follow-up message a few days later is fine. After that, assume she's not interested. Don't send multiple messages trying different angles. It never works.
- Is it bad to just say 'doing well, you?' back?
- Not bad, just dead. You're both now trapped in a question-and-answer loop that ends fast. Better to say what you're actually doing and ask something that opens up the conversation instead of mirroring her.
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