Ask someone out when they dodge personal questions

Short answers and topic-dodging don't necessarily mean no. They often just mean she doesn't reveal much to strangers over text. Some people are wired that way. Others are waiting to see if you're worth opening up to. If she's still replying and keeping the conversation going, even with minimal detail, there's still interest.

What you should not do is interpret vagueness as rejection and keep mining for details. That pushes her further back. She's already told you she's not going to share much via text. Respect that signal and propose something that changes the format entirely.

Stop asking about her life and start creating an interaction where she can show you who she is instead of telling you. This works because it removes the pressure she's feeling to perform in text form. Pick something low-stakes and concrete. Coffee, a walk, drinks. A specific place and time, not a vague hangout.

Your message should be brief and confident enough that it doesn't seem like you need her permission or reassurance. You're not asking if she's interested in getting to know each other better. You're suggesting when and where you're both going to find out if this makes sense. That's a different energy entirely.

If she's giving one-word or one-sentence answers, you have maybe two more exchanges before texting starts feeling like a chore for both of you. That's your window. Don't spend a week building rapport through messages with someone who is clearly not a big texter.

After you suggest a time and place, give her at least 24 hours to respond. If she says no or goes silent, that's your answer. Don't double-text or ask why. Don't pivot to another date idea. She's told you what she needs to tell you. Move on.