How to reply on Snapchat when she says she's bad at texting
She enjoys talking but struggles with texting. Learn how to respond in a way that acknowledges this and moves toward voice or video.
When someone says they're bad at texting but enjoy talking, they're usually telling you two things at once. One, they like you enough to explain their communication style instead of just disappearing. Two, text isn't their medium. They might get anxious typing, forget to reply, or just prefer the speed and tone of a voice call.
Your reply needs to do two jobs. First, show you heard her and won't take slow texts personally. Second, actually pivot toward the communication style she prefers. If you keep texting her long messages after she told you this, you're ignoring what she said.
On Snapchat specifically, you have an advantage. The app is built for voice notes and video calls, not long message threads. Use that. You can move off text without making it weird.
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She's offering a workaround, not an excuse
This message is real information, not a brush-off. She's telling you how she operates so you don't misread her later. When she takes six hours to reply, she's not losing interest. When she sends short messages, she's not being cold. This is just her texture.
On Snapchat, she might use the app mostly for video chatting with friends and quick picture exchanges, not sitting down to write paragraphs. She's also telling you she prefers real-time back and forth where tone and voice carry the meaning. Text strips that away.
Acknowledge it, then suggest the move she wants
Your reply should be short and should mention talking. Don't write a wall of text responding to her wall of text. She just told you text isn't her thing. Keep it light and brief, then suggest a voice note, a call, or a video chat soon. The suggestion doesn't have to be formal. It can feel casual, like you're just pivoting what you're already doing.
The move is to show you actually heard her and you're adapting, not that you're uncomfortable or making a bigger deal out of it than it is.
Send it soon, call within a day or two
Don't wait days to reply to this. She opened the door. Reply in a few hours max. After you reply, give her maybe a day before you ask her to hop on a voice note or call. Don't rush into a full phone call that same day if you've never talked before. A voice note on Snapchat is lower pressure and still gives her what she wants.
If she doesn't reply to your message within 24 hours, don't spiral. This is exactly the texting style she warned you about. Send one follow-up suggestion a day later, then wait. If she's gone quiet for 3 or more days after your reply, assume she's moved on.
Why these replies fail
“haha same i hate texting too. honestly its so annoying when people expect you to be glued to your phone lol. anyway whats good”
You turned it into a complaint session about texting instead of actually addressing what she said or moving forward with talking.
“no worries at all, texting isn't for everyone and thats totally ok. i appreciate you letting me know. if you ever want to chat just let me know”
Too much reassurance and apology. This reads like you're anxious about her texting habits instead of just rolling with it.
“cool, yeah we should video call sometime then”
Too abrupt and demanding without any warmth. Doesn't acknowledge what she said, just orders a call like she has to perform for you.
Common mistakes
- Replying with a long text that proves you didn't listen to what she said
- Being overly reassuring about her texting, which comes across as trying too hard
- Ignoring her hint and continuing to text like normal, creating awkward silence later
- Asking for her number immediately without acknowledging what she just told you
- Apologizing or making it about your feelings instead of adapting to hers
Questions people ask
- Should I ask for her number if she likes talking better?
- Not immediately. Try a voice note or Snapchat call first. If she engages with that and you have good rapport, asking for her number feels natural. If she wanted your number, she'd probably offer it or hint at it.
- What if she takes hours or days to reply after she said this?
- This is exactly what she warned you about. Don't double-text or act hurt. Just continue the conversation normally when she does reply. She's not ghosting you. She's just not great at text, which she told you upfront.
- Is a voice note better than a phone call as a first response?
- Voice notes are lower pressure and give her time to listen and respond on her schedule. Phone calls can feel pushy if you haven't talked yet. Use a voice note first to show you're actually engaging with her preferred style without demanding her time right then.
- How long should I wait before trying to call her?
- Wait at least a day or two of good Snapchat back and forth first. If you've exchanged voice notes and things feel comfortable, you can mention calling pretty casually. Don't cold-call her out of nowhere the day after she says she likes talking.
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