How to ask her out after she said she's still deciding if she's ready to date

Read the phrasing closely. Still deciding means she's thinking about it, not that she's closed the question. It also tells you she doesn't yet know her own answer, so pressing her for one will feel like pressure she can't meet. The enthusiasm she shows in the rest of the conversation matters a lot here. If she's still asking you questions, laughing, and replying with length, the interest is there and the hesitation is about timing or her own state. If her replies have shrunk to one word, take that as the answer for now and let the ask be very light.

Don't try to find out why she's not ready unless she offers it. Asking her to explain herself puts her on the spot. A simple acknowledgement, like taking her at her word, shows that you can hear a not yet without needing to fix it.

There are roughly three ways to ask that fit this moment. The first is a low-stakes plan with a time and place, something she can say yes to without it meaning anything bigger. The second is a light check-in that doesn't name a date at all but makes it clear you'd like to see her when she's ready. The third is a shared activity that happens in a group or a public setting, so the pressure of being alone with you isn't there. In each case the message should be short, specific, and easy to decline. A good draft will mention her earlier words in a sentence or two and then stop.

What to leave out is the justification. Don't explain why you think you'd be good together, don't mention how much you've been thinking about her, and don't add a second question in case she says no. Any of those turns a simple ask into a request she has to manage.

Send the ask in the early part of the day, not late at night, so it doesn't read as a heavy moment. If she doesn't reply within a day or two, that's fine, people often take a while to answer when they're unsure. Wait at least three or four days before anything else, and make the next message a normal conversation starter about something you talked about before, not a repeat of the ask.

If she says not yet or doesn't engage with the plan, thank her, say you're glad you talked, and drop it. If she comes back warmly later, you can pick it up again. If there's still no reply after a second short message, stop. Silence after two attempts is an answer, and continuing will only make the last thing she remembers about you the chasing.