What to say when he asks about coffee with no specific day

When someone says 'sometime this week' instead of 'Tuesday at 4', they're either juggling schedules, testing your enthusiasm, or keeping things loose in case something better comes up. It's not necessarily a bad sign. It usually means he likes you enough to want to meet, but he hasn't firmed up his own week yet.

The risk is that vague requests stay vague. If you match his energy by staying vague back, you end up in a loop where nobody actually books anything. He's waiting for you to make it real, or you're both waiting for the other person to care enough to nail down a time. The week will pass and you'll never have coffee.

Your reply needs to do two moves. First, confirm that yes, you want to meet him for coffee. Make that clear and quick. Second, give him actual options to pick from, or ask him to suggest a day in a way that assumes you'll both find time. Don't just say 'yeah sounds good.' Say 'yeah, I'm free Tuesday or Thursday, which works better for you?' or 'yeah let's do it, when are you thinking?'

The goal is to turn his open question into a simple choice. You're not being pushy. You're making it easy for him to move forward instead of letting this text sit in both your heads as an intention with no shape.

Send your reply within a few hours of his message, ideally while it's still the same day. If he doesn't respond within 24 hours, he's either busy or he wasn't serious about the coffee. Don't send a second message asking if he's still interested. If he comes back after a day or two with a specific day, great. If another few days pass with nothing, move on.

Don't let this turn into a weeks-long back and forth about logistics. If you've both suggested days and he's always unavailable, or he keeps saying 'maybe this week' without committing, he's not treating this like a priority. At that point you've done the work. Stop.