How do you message someone you just added on Snapchat?

Her adding you tells you she is at least curious, or that she was being polite after meeting you, or that she accepts requests from people she half remembers. You can't tell which from the add alone. Look at what she has actually shown you. A story with a specific detail, a recent post, or a bio line gives you something real to reference. If all you have is a blank profile and a name you vaguely recognise, the honest read is that she is undecided, and your first message should be easy to ignore without being cold.

Pay attention to how much she shares. Someone who posts often and tags people is more likely to reply to a message that names something in her story. Someone who mostly watches and rarely posts may need a lighter touch, a single short line with a question that is easy to answer in a word. Neither type wants a speech.

There are a few shapes that work here. One is the reference shape, where you point at a specific thing from her story and ask a question about it. The job of this shape is to show you were paying attention, and the test is whether the reference is concrete enough that she could not have received the same message from anyone else. Another is the callback shape, where you mention where you met or a shared context. It works when the context was real and neutral, and it fails if you use it to imply more history than exists. A third is the light-ask shape, a short statement plus one small question about her day or a plan. It works when there's nothing specific to reference.

Whatever shape you pick, leave out anything that asks her to commit to a plan, anything that comments on her looks, and anything that tries to be clever at her expense. A draft is the right kind when a stranger reading only that line could tell what it's responding to, and it should be shorter than the message she would expect from you.

Send the first message during a normal waking window for her, not late at night when a message can feel like a move. Mid-afternoon or early evening usually lands better than 2am. If she replies, match her length and energy and don't escalate the question. If she doesn't reply within a day or two, that's the normal baseline on Snapchat, since people open it in bursts.

If there is no answer after the first message, one follow-up is reasonable, a few days later, and it should be lighter than the first, not a repeat of it. After that, stop. A second unanswered message that tries harder tells her you read silence as a problem to fix. Leave it, and if she later sends something, pick up where it lands.