What to text when he asks you to be his girlfriend after 3 months

Three months is not a rule. Some people know within weeks and some need a year, and the number on the calendar tells you little. What tells you more is how the last few months have felt. Do you look forward to seeing him? Are you the one who makes plans? Have you stopped checking whether he is still interested? If those are true, the question is mostly a formality and the honest answer is probably yes. If you find yourself hesitating, look at what you are hesitating about. Is it him, the pace, or a feeling that you have not had time to say no to other things? Each of those points to a different reply. Pinning down which one it is matters more than writing something polished.

He is also telling you something by asking. People who ask this early usually feel secure enough to want clarity, and that is a reasonable thing to want. It does not mean he expects you to match him right away. Reading the ask as pressure when it was an invitation can make you respond more defensively than the situation needs.

A girlfriend question deserves a short, clear reply with a bit of warmth. Two or three sentences is usually enough. One kind of reply says yes, or leans yes, and names one specific thing you like about where things are, so it does not sound like a checkbox. A second kind says you need more time, gives the reason in a sentence, and suggests talking in person so he is not left parsing your tone. A third kind is the honest middle: you like him, you are not ready to label it yet, and you want him to know that is about the pace, not about him. Each works because it answers the question and points forward. None of them should include a list of your doubts, a request for him to prove himself, or a counter-question that turns the spotlight back on him.

If your reply is anything other than a clean yes, follow up with a real conversation. Send the text, then suggest seeing him this week, somewhere you can talk without rushing. Don't wait a full day for him to ask. A reply within a few hours is normal for a question like this. Silence longer than a day can make him read your delay as a no, so if you need time to think, say so in the text itself instead of letting the quiet speak for you. If he responds well and you still feel unsure after talking, say that too. If the conversation turns into him pushing for a decision you are not ready to make, slow down and say so clearly, once. Repeating the same objection over and over tends to make you both feel worse.