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Where to put your intro blurb on Hinge so matches actually read it

Where Hinge shows your intro blurb and how to position it so matches see it before they swipe. The placement matters more than you think.

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On Hinge, your intro blurb lives in a specific spot in your profile that most people miss or ignore. It sits between your photos and your answers to the app's prompts. Many matches never scroll there. Some do, but only if your photos already caught them.

The blurb is short real estate, maybe two or three sentences. It's not your bio. It's meant to give context fast or add a detail that your photos and prompts don't cover. Think of it as a speed bump between "I find this person attractive" and "I'm going to read their entire profile."

If you're not getting responses, the blurb might not be the problem. But if it exists and it's buried or forgettable, it's wasting space that could work for you.

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The blurb sits where most people stop scrolling

Your intro blurb appears right after your main photo carousel, before anyone hits your prompt answers. The problem is that most matches make their swipe decision in the photos alone. They never get to your blurb. If they do scroll, it's usually because your photos worked. So the blurb isn't a second chance to impress, it's a detail layer for people who are already interested.

This means your blurb won't save a weak photo set. But it can reinforce interest if someone is on the fence. It can also give you a reason to message them later ("I saw you mentioned X in your blurb") and it can hint at what your prompts will cover, so they have a reason to keep reading.

A blurb that lands shows one real thing, then moves on

Your blurb should do one job: say something true about you that photos can't. Not something obvious or list-like. Something that gives texture. "Dog dad who travels" is photo material. "I'm weirdly into board games and I'll absolutely destroy you at Catan" says something specific and gives a match a conversation angle.

The move is to pick one detail that matters to how you spend time or what you care about, say it in a way that sounds like you, and stop. Then let your prompts do the rest. A two or three sentence blurb that lands is worth more than a paragraph of trying too hard.

Don't rewrite this if no one responds in a week

If you're not getting messages, the blurb probably isn't why. It's more likely your photos, how often you're swiping, or just the timeline of when people see you. Changing your blurb every few days looks like you're unsure. Leave it for at least two weeks before you test a different version.

If you do change it, change one thing only. Try a blurb that's warmer, or one that's funnier, or one that gives a different hook. Then wait another two weeks. Any faster than that and you're just noise to the algorithm.

Do not send

Why these replies fail

  • “Entrepreneur. Fitness enthusiast. Dog lover. Foodie. Looking for something real.”

    It's a list with no personality and reads like every other profile. Nothing here invites a conversation or gives you texture.

  • “I'm not like other girls. I'm quirky and weird and I only date people who get me. If you're a player swipe left.”

    It puts up walls instead of opening doors. Leads with dealbreakers and sounds defensive, which makes matches nervous about messaging you.

  • “Just here to see what this app is about. No idea what I'm doing lol.”

    It signals you're not serious or you're not sure why you're there. Matches read this as low investment and move on to someone who wants to be there.

Avoid these

Common mistakes

  • Writing a full paragraph when two sentences would land better and get read
  • Making the blurb too generic ("I like hiking and tacos") so it doesn't differentiate you
  • Treating it like a dating app bio instead of a quick attention hook
  • Forgetting it exists entirely and leaving it blank, which looks unfinished
  • Using it to list dealbreakers or complaints instead of saying something about yourself

Questions people ask

Can I use my blurb to say something I didn't put in my prompts?
Yes. The blurb and prompts are different lanes. Your blurb is the speed-read version. It should say something true that's quick to land. Prompts let you go deeper. If your blurb mentions something specific, your prompts can build on it or ignore it entirely.
How long should my intro blurb actually be?
Two or three sentences max. One good sentence is better than two mediocre ones. You want it readable in a glance. If someone has to scroll to finish reading your blurb, it's too long and it loses people.
Should I mention what I'm looking for in my blurb?
Not usually. "Looking for something real" and "No hookups" are defaults that most people ignore. Instead, say something about how you spend your time or what you care about. That tells a match what it's like to know you, which is more useful than listing your relationship goals.
Does my blurb matter if my photos are weak?
No. Fix your photos first. Your blurb only matters if someone already scrolled, which means your photos worked. If your photos aren't getting swipes, your blurb won't be seen or won't be enough to change minds.

What people say after using WingAI

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