When you ask a girl out and she says she will think about it
She said she'll think about it after you asked her out. Here's how to read that, what to send back, and when to stop waiting.
"I'll think about it" is usually a soft no or a not-yet, and she is often trying to avoid the awkwardness of saying no to your face. It can also mean she is interested but busy, unsure about timing, or wants a bit more of a read on you before committing. Most of the time you cannot tell which from the words alone, so the useful move is to make it easy for her to answer clearly.
Good replies do two things. They accept her answer without sulking or pressing, and they leave a specific, low-effort next step so a yes is easy to give. A reply that just says "ok cool" closes the door. A reply that asks her to justify herself puts her on the spot.
The goal is not to win her thinking time. It is to get a real signal, and to leave her feeling you are someone easy to say yes to.
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"I'll think about it" carries very little information on its own, so read it against everything else in the exchange. If she has been warm, asking questions, and replying quickly, the hedge is probably about logistics or not wanting to rush. If the conversation was already short, flat, or slow, it is more likely a polite way of saying no. Look at whether she offered any detail, like a day that doesn't work or a reason. A specific reason is often a soft yes with a scheduling problem. Nothing at all is usually a no she would rather not say out loud.
Also notice whether she gave you a way forward. Some women say they'll think about it and then send a plan, which is the best outcome. Others leave it floating, which tells you she is not ready to commit to anything yet.
Give her an easy yes without chasing
The reply you send should be short and make a clear next step cheap for her. Two kinds of message tend to work. The first accepts her answer warmly and offers a light, open invitation with no deadline, so she can come back to it on her own time. The second keeps things moving by proposing one concrete option, such as a specific day or a casual format, which lets her say yes or no without building a case.
A good draft of either kind is short, has one question or one invitation, and does not explain why she should agree. Leave out apologies, leave out any tone of disappointment, and leave out a second reason to say yes. If you added a line about how much you'd enjoy it, you have turned a simple answer into a pitch she now has to respond to.
Let the silence tell you something
If she replies warmly and sets something up, follow through on it and stop thinking about the hedge. If she does not come back within a few days, send one light follow-up that is not about the ask, like a question about her week or a link to something you know she'd like. That tests whether she is still engaged in the conversation at all.
If that gets no answer, drop the topic of the date entirely. You can still be friendly if you bump into her again, but do not send a third message about the invitation. Two or three gentle contacts with no movement is a clear answer, and continuing past that makes you look like you cannot take a no. Move on and ask someone else.
Why these replies fail
“Oh ok, no worries! Just let me know, I really think we'd have a great time together so I hope you'll say yes :)”
It piles on reasons to agree and turns her hedge into a request she has to answer for.
“Cool. Is it a yes or a no?”
It forces a decision right away and makes her feel cornered after she has already hedged.
“Hey, just checking in again about Thursday, did you decide?”
A second ask this soon reads as pressure, and she has already told you she needs more time.
Common mistakes
- Following up the same night with a second ask
- Asking her to commit to a day right away after she hedged
- Reading a vague answer as a yes and planning around it
- Going quiet for days and then treating her reply as a rejection
- Sending a long message that makes her feel she owes you a decision
Questions people ask
- Does she like me if she says she'll think about it?
- Not necessarily. It can mean she is interested but unsure about timing, or it can be a polite way of saying no. Look at the rest of the conversation. If she has been warm and engaged, the hedge is probably about logistics. If the chat was already flat, treat it as a probable no and avoid reading interest into it.
- How long should I wait before I follow up?
- Give her a few days, and do not follow up the same night. If she hasn't come back by then, send one light message that is not about the invitation. Waiting a week or more before any contact is also fine, as long as you are not expecting an immediate answer from her.
- Should I ask her again if she doesn't reply?
- Only once, and only if the first message was friendly and open. Asking a second time with a specific invitation can work, but a third ask is pushing. If she still hasn't answered after that, the date is off the table and you should drop it.
- What if she says she'll think about it and then never answers?
- That is a clear answer, even though it is not a spoken one. Stop asking about the date. Staying friendly if you see her again is fine, but do not send more invitations. Continuing after silence makes it harder for her to say no to you later on.
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