What to do when he blocks you after you block him?
He blocked you after you blocked him. Here's what that means, what a reply can and can't do, and when to stop trying.
This one is almost always a tit-for-tat block, not a sign that something big has happened between you. You blocked him, he noticed, and he blocked you back. Usually it means he felt the block as a rejection or a small public slight, and blocking you was the quickest way to even it out.
It's worth being honest about why you blocked him in the first place. If it was to stop a stream of messages you didn't want, the block already did its job and nothing more needs to happen. If it was a move to make him feel something, he probably did feel it, and the block now sits between you as a little contest.
A good reply here doesn't try to win the exchange or undo the block. At most it closes the loop calmly, so neither of you has to keep wondering what the other meant.
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A block that comes right after your own block is almost never new information about how he feels about you. It's information about how he felt about being blocked. He saw that you no longer wanted to be reachable, and his fastest response was to remove you from his side too. That reflex is about the sting of the first block, so reading the second one as a verdict on your connection usually points you in the wrong direction.
Look at the state of things before the blocks. Was the conversation warm, or had it already thinned out? If he was already pulling back, the mutual blocks are just the formal end of something that was winding down. If he was still engaged and the block came out of nowhere, he may have felt snubbed by how you ended it, and that's the part worth looking at.
Answer before you get curious
The urge after a mutual block is to find out what he's thinking, and that urge is what makes people send the second message. Before you do anything, ask yourself what you'd gain. If the answer is reassurance, an explanation, or a chance to be the one who got the last word, the message is for you and not for him. A message that actually helps has a plain purpose, like telling him you didn't mean the block as an insult, or closing a loop you left open. Anything beyond that is likely to be read as a bid to keep the thing alive.
If you do decide to send something, it should be short, unhurried, and ask for nothing. Once he has seen it, you have no control over whether he answers, so the message has to be something you'd be fine with him never replying to.
Let the silence run its course
Give it at least a week before you consider anything else, and don't check whether he's active or whether his profile changed. Being blocked means you can't see those things anyway, and that's the point. If you're tempted to create a new account to peek, that tells you the situation has stopped being about him and started being about your need for an answer. Stop there.
If you've sent one calm message and there's no response, that's your answer. Don't follow up, don't unblock to check, and don't try a second channel. Two attempts are already more than most people want after a mutual block, and a third one only tells him the first two weren't clear enough. Whatever you do next, make it something that doesn't depend on him.
Why these replies fail
“Hey, I unblocked you just to say I'm sorry if I came across harsh, I didn't mean it that way”
Unblocking to apologize reads as a move to restart contact, and the apology is loaded with a request for him to reassure you.
“Wow ok so we're just doing this now? Fine. I really thought we had something but I guess not”
It turns a quiet ending into a confrontation and hands him an easy reason to ignore you or block you again.
“I made a new account so I could see your story, hope you're doing well”
Getting around a block is a clear signal that you can't accept the boundary, and it will likely make him think you're unsafe to talk to.
Common mistakes
- Unblocking him right away to send a message, which reads as chasing and tells him the block worked
- Making a second account or messaging through a friend to get around the block
- Sending a long message explaining why you blocked him, which turns a quiet ending into an argument
- Treating his block as proof he's hurt, and then sending messages to check on it
- Going silent for a week and then reappearing with a casual 'hey' as if nothing happened
Questions people ask
- Does him blocking me after I blocked him mean he still likes me?
- Not necessarily. It usually means he felt rejected by your block and matched it to even things out. It can happen when someone still has feelings, but it also happens when someone is simply annoyed or wants the last move. The timing and the state of the conversation before the blocks tell you more than the block itself.
- Should I unblock him to send a message?
- Usually not. Unblocking to send a message suggests you're trying to restart contact, and he'll read it that way. If you need to say something, it's better to decide whether it's worth saying at all and leave the block in place. If you do send something, it will only land if he chooses to reply.
- How long should I wait before I try again?
- If you choose to try again at all, give it at least a week or two of real silence. Trying sooner tends to look like a reaction to the block rather than a considered message. If he hasn't responded to one calm message, that's the signal to stop, and further attempts usually make things worse.
- What if I just want to explain why I blocked him?
- An explanation rarely helps once someone has blocked you, because he's likely to read it as a justification he didn't ask for. If the reason matters to you, it's better to let it go rather than send a long message. A short, neutral line is the most you should consider, and only if you can accept getting no reply.
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