What to text when a guy says "I'm sorry, you feel that way"?

The phrase has two parts that matter. "I'm sorry" is there to end the conversation. "You feel that way" is there to move the problem into your head. Together they say he's heard that you're hurt and has decided that's the full extent of his responsibility.

Notice what's missing. He doesn't say he's sorry for the specific thing. He doesn't ask what would help. He doesn't say whether he agrees with your read. That absence is the signal. Some people use this line because they're defensive and want the discomfort to stop. Others use it because they honestly think the problem is your reaction, not their action. You often can't tell which from one message, so watch what he does next instead of what he wants you to believe about the last one.

One kind of reply restates the specific behaviour in plain terms, without adjectives. It describes what happened and what it meant to you, then leaves room for him to respond to the event instead of your tone. Its job is to pull the conversation back onto the thing he skipped. You can tell a draft is this kind when it has a concrete event in it and no question about whether he's a good person.

A second kind is the short boundary. It states what you need going forward and doesn't ask him to agree with your version of the past. Its job is to decide the outcome for you. Watch for drafts that slide into asking for an apology. That turns it back into the first kind and hands him the lever again.

A third kind is the clean exit. It says you'd rather not keep going if he can't engage with it. Leave out the threat, the list of grievances, and any hint that you're hoping he'll prove you wrong.

Wait a reasonable stretch before replying, long enough that you're not sending while still stung. A few hours to a day is usually enough. Replying mid-fight, late at night, or while scrolling on your phone tends to produce the message you'll regret.

If he comes back with something real, like an actual acknowledgement or a question about what you needed, you can take that and keep talking. If he sends another version of the same line, or nothing, don't keep knocking. One clear message is a fair ask. A second can be fine if you're still deciding. After that, the silence or the repeat is your answer, and you can stop spending energy on it.