How to text him about his relationship goals when he keeps dodging

Vagueness is a choice. He may not even realize he's doing it, but on some level he's avoiding a clear answer because a clear answer might end things or lock him in. Guys who know what they want tend to say it. The ones who dodge are either not that interested in commitment, still dating other people and keeping options open, or testing to see if you'll accept breadcrumbs.

Read it this way: if he wanted to be serious, he'd probably have mentioned it already. The lack of clarity is the information. Your job isn't to make him want something more. It's to figure out if what he actually wants matches what you want, and to do that you need him to stop hiding.

The text has to be calm and factual. You're stating what you need to know, not what he needs to do for you. Avoid language that sounds like a test or a trap. Don't ask 'Do you see a future with me?' or 'Are you serious about this?', those questions let him compliment you instead of answering.

Instead, ask what he's looking for in general. Casual dating, something that could get serious, unsure for now. Give him categories so he can't hide in vagueness. Then wait for the answer. If he dodges again or says 'I don't know,' that's also an answer. It tells you he's not ready to be straightforward with you, which is useful information.

Send the text once and give him a real window to respond. One or two days is enough. If he doesn't reply, or replies with another vague non-answer, you have your answer. He's shown you that clarity isn't something he's willing to give, and that matters more than any excuse.

Don't send follow-ups asking if he got your message or trying to rephrase. That just gives him more chances to dodge. If he comes back after a few days with a real answer, fine. But don't sit around waiting. If he cares about keeping you in his life, he'll respond. If he doesn't, that tells you everything.