What to text when you both liked each other on the app

A mutual match means she decided you were worth a yes. That is not nothing. But it also does not mean she is excited yet. She may have liked your profile two days ago and forgotten about you. She may have liked it because one photo caught her eye and she did not read your bio. Right now you are still in the pile of people she said yes to. What matters now is whether you are the one who moves the match forward or whether you both just sit there waiting for the other person to go first.

Do not ask her about hiking. Tell her you saw she hikes. Then say something that connects it to you, or ask a question that only makes sense because you both have this thing in common. The move here is specificity followed by a small door you both can walk through. You are saying 'I read your profile and I saw this thing about you, and here is what I think about it' or 'I read your profile and I see we have this in common, so here is the question I actually want to know from you.' A generic opener makes her job impossible. A specific opener makes her job easy because she only has to respond to the real thing you actually said.

Matches fade fast. The algorithm moves her profile away from your inbox. She gets other matches and other messages. You have a small window to show up. Send your reply the same day you match, or the next morning if you match late at night. Do not wait three days. If she does not reply within 48 to 72 hours, send one more reply only if you have something new to say. Do not send 'hey' after your first real message did not land. That makes it worse. If there is still no reply after two attempts, move on. She saw your message. She chose not to respond.