What to text when she says she's leaving the app soon

When she tells you she's leaving the app, she's not saying she's not interested in you. She's saying the clock is ticking. Maybe she found someone, maybe she's just tired of the app, maybe nothing's happened yet and she's impatient. The reason doesn't matter as much as the fact that she told you this at all. If you were a complete zero to her, she wouldn't mention it. She'd just ghost.

What matters is how you read the moment. This is her telling you that if you want to keep talking, you need to move off the app. It's a small opening, not a closing door. But you have to move through it.

The move here is to respond to what she said, then casually slip in a way to stay connected. Don't separate them. Don't say 'oh cool, well can I have your number?' Make it flow. You're saying something like 'makes sense, what's your number so we don't lose touch' or 'totally get it, easier to text anyway'. The ask feels natural because it follows from what she already told you.

Don't soften it or apologize for asking. Don't say 'only if you want to' or 'no pressure'. She already knows it's optional. You asking straight up just shows you're clear about what you want instead of playing games. If she gives it to you, you win. If she doesn't, you'll know fast instead of hoping.

Once you get her number, text her the same day or within a few hours. Keep it short and light. 'Hey it's X' works. The point is just to confirm you have it and start the thread somewhere that isn't the app.

After that, follow normal texting timing. Don't text her again for a day or two. Let her reply. If she's interested, she'll respond. If she doesn't, you've done what you needed to do. She had the option and chose something else. Don't follow up more than once. The move is closed after that first exchange.