What to text when she's swamped with work and can't meet up

Work rushes are actual. Some jobs have crunch periods where hanging out really isn't feasible. But here's the thing: if she wanted to see you, she'd text back faster, she'd suggest one specific thing instead of blocking off weeks, or she'd at least say 'next month looks better.' The text itself tells you less than the pattern around it. Did she go dark or is she still texting you? Did she used to make time and now doesn't? Is this a new excuse or does her schedule actually change a lot? Those details tell you whether she's actually overwhelmed or using work as a soft out.

Your reply has two jobs here. First, acknowledge what she said so she knows you're not one of those guys who bulldozes past her words. Second, keep the connection warm without demanding follow-up. The move is to say something that lands light. Don't ask when she'll be free. Don't offer seventeen alternative times. Instead, give her space to breathe while leaving it clear you'd still want to see her if her schedule opens up. You're not chasing her. You're just not disappearing either.

Don't text her again in three days asking if things have calmed down. Give it at least a week and a half, maybe two weeks. If she's actually slammed, she's not going to magically free up because you checked in. She'll feel pressured. If she wants to see you, she'll text you when the rush ends, or she'll keep engaging in conversation threads you start about other things. If you text her twice in two weeks with nothing solid to say, you start looking like you're anchored to her schedule.

At some point, stop. If you've let two or three weeks pass with only one-word responses from her, or if she's gone radio silent, move on. It sucks, but your job was never to wait for her life to calm down.