What to text when she says she's been burned by flaky people

This isn't vague anxiety. She's been flaked on enough to know the signs. When someone says they need consistency, they mean they've watched people start strong and fade. They've learned to read the slowdown. You texting back in three hours today and six hours tomorrow doesn't feel like a schedule to her. It feels like the beginning of the fade.

What she's actually looking for is someone whose behavior doesn't shift based on how new the relationship is. Early-stage consistency looks like: you text back on a similar timeline most days, you follow through on plans, and you don't use busyness as an excuse to ghost for a week. She's already calibrated her radar for the opposite.

Don't reply to her vulnerability with a speech about how you're different. Reply by being the behavior she described. This means the next ten days of texting matter more than what you say right now. If you respond with 'I hear you, I'm really reliable,' and then take eight hours to text her the next morning, you've just proved the opposite.

Instead, acknowledge what she said briefly and specifically, then let your actions build her trust. If she mentions she needs consistency, the move is to be consistent starting immediately. No big promises. Just steady.

Don't try to circle back and prove yourself after one good week. She's not tracking a single week. She's watching to see if you're someone who cares about showing up after the honeymoon phase ends. This takes three to four weeks of normal texting and meeting up to even register.

If you go silent or flaky, don't try to recover with an explanation about why. That conversation happens naturally later if the relationship progresses. Right now, just be the person who doesn't need excuses because he's already showing up. If you do drop the ball, acknowledge it straightforwardly the next time you text and move forward, not backward.