What to text when she says she's skeptical of dating app people

When she says this, she's not being coy. She's had matches who weren't who they claimed to be, conversations that went nowhere, or people who ghosted. She's flagging that she needs you to prove you're worth her time and that you won't repeat her bad experiences.

This is actually good information. It means she cares enough to protect herself, which means she's not jaded, just cautious. She matched with you anyway, which is her saying, 'I want to believe this could work, but I need to see it.'

Your reply needs to do two things at once. First, validate that her skepticism makes sense. Don't tell her she's wrong to feel this way. Second, show her through your behavior that you're not the guy she's worried about. That means being clear, keeping your word on small things, following up on what you said you'd do, and not disappearing into vague texting.

Don't claim you're different. Show it. If you say you'll text her at a certain time, text her then. If you make plans, confirm them. If she asks something, answer directly. She's watching for consistency, and consistency is the opposite of how app guys typically behave.

This is not a message to sit with. Respond within a few hours while the conversation is fresh. A long delay here reads as either you not caring or you being another person who ghosts for stretches. Quick and real beats slow and perfect.

After you reply, the burden is on you to not disappear. If you're going to keep texting, actually keep texting. Don't go silent for three days. If you're going to make plans, make them and stick to them. If you're going to ghost, do it now before she invests more hope. The worst move is to prove her right.