Text her when she cancels plans repeatedly but stays interested

When someone cancels once and reschedules, that's life. When she cancels multiple times but keeps texting enthusiastically, the texts are not proof of interest. They're proof she enjoys the interaction itself. Texts have no cost. They take thirty seconds. A date requires her to shower, get ready, travel, and spend hours with you. If she's willing to do the first but not the second, repeatedly, she's showing you exactly where you rank. The enthusiasm is real. Her willingness to follow through is not.

After the second cancellation, your job changes. You're no longer trying to lock down a date. You're testing whether she'll actually commit to one. This means when she cancels or goes quiet, you don't immediately suggest an alternative. Instead, you send something simple that requires her to step up. She needs to either name a specific day and time, or admit she's not available. You're making the cost of saying yes and the cost of saying no both real. Right now, canceling has zero cost. She keeps your attention either way.

If she cancels twice and doesn't immediately offer a reschedule with a specific date, stop texting about hanging out. You can keep a light conversation going if you want, but drop the date planning. After the third cancellation, even one with a vague reschedule offer, the pattern is confirmed. At this point, texting her trying new strategies is just hoping. A good move here is often no message at all. Let her reach out. If she does and you want to give it one more chance, name one date and time, and tell her you need a yes or no by a specific hour. After that, you have your answer either way.