What to text when she only reaches out when bored or lonely

Pay attention to the gaps. If she reaches out only at 10pm or on Sunday mornings when she's bored, that's not a coincidence. You're fitting into the spaces where her actual priorities aren't filling her time. That doesn't mean she dislikes you. It means you're not someone she's making plans around or thinking about during her day.

This pattern usually stays stable. If you reward it by being cheerful and available every time, she learns that boredom texting works. If she wanted more, she'd text differently. Her behavior is already telling you where you stand.

Your reply needs to be warm enough that she knows you're not upset, but brief enough that it doesn't feel rewarding. You're not creating a conversation she's excited to have at 10pm. You can be friendly and still not match her energy.

The second move is subtly redirecting. You can reference something you're doing, propose a specific plan instead of texting, or just keep it short so the interaction doesn't spiral into a long chat. You're signaling: I'll talk to you, but not in a way where texting when bored is a reliable dopamine hit.

After a low-effort reply from you, give it time. Don't send follow-up texts. Don't start a new thread. If she's actually interested in you, the ball is in her court now. She either matches your energy and proposes something concrete, or she disappears.

If she comes back only when bored again a few days later, you have your answer. You can either accept that this is what she offers and keep the interaction casual, or you can stop replying at all. There's no middle ground where you change her mind by being more available or nicer.