What to text to get her number after she says she prefers meeting in person

Read the comment as a filter, not a rejection. Someone who says they prefer meeting in person has usually been burned by long chats that fizzle, or by people who never follow through on plans. Her message is a request for a faster path to finding out whether there is any spark. It tells you she is open to meeting, just not to a slow text relationship first.

Look at what she did not say. She did not say she is not interested in you, and she did not close the door on contact. She described a preference about format. That gives you room to respond with a plan for a single meeting, while keeping the number as the practical way to coordinate it. Her profile and first reply also tell you whether she is warm or polite and brief. Short, friendly answers suggest she is serious about the in-person part and not playing with you.

Your reply has to do three things. First, accept her preference in a way that shows you heard it. Second, make a specific case for why a short exchange of numbers makes meeting easier, rather than making texting the goal. Third, lean toward a small, low-pressure next step that she can say yes to.

The move is to match her energy and skip the sales pitch. Keep it light. A number is logistics, so frame it that way. Avoid making it sound like you need her number to keep talking, because that undercuts her point. Give her an easy way to say yes, and a clear, comfortable way to say no, with the interest still intact.

Send your reply in the same part of the day she was active, not late at night when it reads as eager. If she responds with a number or a plan, reply within a few hours and move to scheduling. If she does not respond at all, wait about two days before any follow-up, since silence after a format preference often just means she is busy.

One nudge is enough. Keep it short and let it stand on its own, without repeating the number request in a different wording. If there is still no reply after that, stop. Continuing to message someone who has not answered twice tells her you do not respect her preference, and that is the reason a match goes cold.