What to text when he says he'll see you again but ghosts on plans

Saying he wants to see you again is easy. It costs nothing. It keeps the door open without commitment. What you're really looking for is whether he'll volunteer a specific day, time, and plan in the next message or two. If he doesn't, you're watching him treat this as optional.

Pay attention to the gap between the words and the action. A week passes. Two weeks. He never mentions it again, but when you do, he acts surprised or guilty. That's the real message. The words were placeholder politeness. The silence tells you he's not actually planning his time around you.

Your reply should be short and should land the ball back in his court. You're acknowledging what he said without filling in the blanks for him. No suggesting days. No 'let me know when you're free.' No softening to make it easier for him to say yes.

Instead, you pause. You agree in principle. Then you wait to see if he actually picks a time. If he suggests something specific within the next couple of messages, you're no longer guessing at his interest. If he doesn't, the pattern is telling you what you need to know.

Send your reply, then give him about three days to follow up with an actual plan. If he doesn't suggest a specific day and time, and he doesn't bring it up again in that window, you have your answer. Don't send another message after that asking when he's free. Don't try to reschedule or check in.

If he reaches out weeks later wanting to hang, you can respond then. But you don't chase. You've already tested it once. A second test just tells you he's comfortable with you doing the work while he decides whether he feels like showing up.