What to text when he asks about other people but dodges the question
He wants to know if you're seeing anyone else, but won't say the same about himself. Here's how to respond without playing games.
When a guy asks if you're seeing other people but refuses to answer the same question, he's signaling something specific. He's either keeping his options open while expecting exclusivity from you, or he's uncomfortable being direct about where he stands. Either way, his silence tells you something.
Your reply needs to do two things. It should call out the imbalance directly but without sounding accusatory, and it should force him to either reciprocate or admit he's not ready for that conversation. A good text here is calm and specific. It doesn't pretend you didn't notice. It also doesn't let him hide behind "I thought we were just having fun" later.
The goal is clarity, not scoring points. If he's interested in something real with you, he'll match your directness. If he folds or disappears, you have your answer.
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A guy who asks if you're seeing other people but won't reciprocate is testing the water. He wants to know if you're exclusive with him while staying non-exclusive himself. Sometimes it's a calculated move. Sometimes it's just comfort with ambiguity that he's not extending to you.
The telling part is the silence after his question. He may have asked casually, "So are you talking to anyone else?" which is his way of making it seem throwaway. It's not. He asked because he cares about the answer. His refusal to answer the same thing means he's decided the rules are different for him. That's worth pushing back on before you get more invested.
Turn it back without repeating his exact question
Don't just say "Well are you?" because that sounds like you're playing a game. Instead, name what's actually happening and make him pick a lane. You're looking for a response that says something like: I noticed you asked me something but didn't want to say the same thing. I get it if you need more time, but I need to know if we're on the same page before I invest more.
The move is to be specific about what you need, honesty and clarity instead of just bouncing his question back. This forces him to either be direct with you or admit he doesn't want to be. Both outcomes are useful because they tell you what you're actually dealing with.
Send it and then step back
Send your text when you're calm, not right after the conversation. Give it a few hours if you need to so you're not writing from frustration. He may come back with a real answer, a deflection, or silence. If he answers honestly and matches your openness, you move forward. If he dodges again or goes quiet, that's your signal to stop investing in this.
Don't send a follow-up text asking where he went or trying to make it easier for him to respond. Don't soften your previous message. If he's interested in being straight with you, he knows what you're asking. Give him two to three days maximum. After that, his lack of response is a response.
Why these replies fail
“I'm not seeing anyone else if that's what you're asking lol”
You answered his question without requiring him to answer yours, which lets him off the hook and gives him what he wants.
“That's kind of a weird question to ask”
This sounds defensive and dismissive, so he'll think you're avoiding the question too instead of recognizing he's being unfair.
“Why, are you seeing other people? Because I need to know if we should be exclusive”
You're asking his question back instead of addressing the imbalance, so he can just answer and avoid the real issue.
Common mistakes
- Answering his question first, which lets him stay in control of the conversation
- Getting emotional or defensive, which gives him an excuse to deflect
- Letting it slide and moving on, which teaches him the imbalance is fine
- Asking the same question back without acknowledging he already dodged it
- Over-explaining your own situation, which fills the space he should be filling
Questions people ask
- Should I answer his question to show I have nothing to hide?
- No. Answering first rewards him for not being direct. You're not hiding anything by saying I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours. It's a fair boundary. If he accuses you of being evasive, that's a sign he wants control of the information, not honesty.
- What if he says he didn't realize he was supposed to answer?
- That's probably not true. He knew it was a loaded question or he wouldn't have asked it. You can say something like I get it, but I'm asking now. If he keeps pretending it was innocent, he's not being thoughtful about what you need.
- How long do I wait for him to respond before I move on?
- Two to three days is reasonable. If he cares about your answer or the relationship, he'll respond. Silence after you've been direct is a clear signal. Don't keep the door open indefinitely while waiting for him to figure it out.
- What if he responds with a joke to deflect?
- He's trying to make it light so you'll drop it. You can laugh and then ask again, seriously this time. For real though, where are you at? If he jokes twice, he's choosing not to answer. That's your cue to step back.
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