What to text back when she says she's joining a dance class

When someone says they're terrified and then mentions they wanted to go with someone, the nerves are the real content. She isn't really reporting a class schedule. She's telling you she's stepping outside her comfort zone and would like it to feel less lonely. The word 'lol' after the friends comment is a small self-deprecating shrug that means she's a little embarrassed the plan has no one attached.

Read the message for what she's offering without offering it outright. She has given you a door, a sense of what she's anxious about, and the fact that she's already committed. Your reply should acknowledge the nerves as normal and treat the class as something she's brave for doing, not something she's failing at by being new.

If the message has no question in it, that's fine. Don't pretend she asked one. Respond to the feeling and let her decide how far to take it.

The fastest way to lose the thread is to make the reply about whether you're free. Her message is about her new class, so the reply should stay there. Ask about the one thing she clearly cares about: is this a first time, does she know what to expect, what is she most worried about.

One question is enough. Two questions reads like an interview and gives her two things to answer, so she often answers neither. Pick the one that gives her the easiest, most interesting thing to talk about.

If you want to signal that you'd be up for going along, keep it light and ambiguous rather than a formal invitation. A sentence that makes the idea visible and leaves the next step to her is enough for now. Saying yes to joining her before she's even mentioned a date usually makes her wonder what you're after.

Replies to a message like this should go out within a few hours if you can manage it, because the excitement she's feeling is most present right after she sent it. Waiting until the next morning isn't a disaster, but a reply sent late at night after she's gone to bed can read as an afterthought.

If she answers warmly, you can keep going for a few exchanges. If she replies with a short 'yeah' or doesn't reply at all, don't send a follow-up asking whether she's still there. Let the thread rest. You can bring up the class again in a few days when there's a natural reason, like she mentions Thursday or asks how the first session went.

Stop pushing once you've had two unanswered messages in a row about the class itself. At that point you're asking her to manage your interest, and she won't want to.