What to text when she says she's dating other people too
How to respond when she tells you she's seeing someone else. Keep your shot alive without looking desperate or bitter.
When she tells you she's talking to or dating other people at the same time, she's usually not rejecting you yet. She's being honest about where things stand. This is common early on, especially on apps. Your job is to acknowledge it without making it weird or forcing a conversation about exclusivity when you barely know each other.
A good reply shows you're unbothered, keeps the door open, and moves forward. You're not begging for exclusivity. You're also not pretending you don't care when clearly you do. The goal is to stay in the game while she figures out if you're worth focusing on.
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Try for freeShe told you because she's interested enough to keep you in the picture
Most people don't volunteer this information unless they're considering sticking around. If she was done with you, she'd just fade or ghost. The fact that she said it now, directly, means she respects you enough to be honest and she wants room to explore without feeling guilty. Take it as a positive signal hiding inside awkward timing.
What matters is that you're not the only option yet. That's normal at this stage. Plenty of people are talking to multiple matches. She's testing to see how you handle it and whether you'll stay cool or become a problem.
Stay light but not flippant about what comes next
Your reply needs to do two things. First, show that you're comfortable with how dating actually works and you're not going to make her feel bad for exploring other options. Second, signal that you're worth her time by moving the conversation forward instead of dwelling on the other guys.
Don't make jokes that land like you don't care. Don't ask who they are or how many. Don't pivot to telling her you're also talking to five other people. Just acknowledge it simply, maybe add one real line about wanting to get to know her better, and shift to planning or asking her something interesting. That tells her you're in this but not desperate.
Give her one more solid date before you reassess
Send your reply within a few hours while the conversation is fresh. If she comes back positively, suggest plans within the next message or two. Don't wait weeks to see if she picks you. Give her one more date or a real hangout to show what you bring, then see if she's narrowing her focus.
If she goes quiet after your reply, she wasn't as interested as the honesty made it seem. Stop texting and move on. Don't send a follow-up after three days asking why she disappeared. If she does reply and makes plans, treat that date like it matters and be someone worth choosing over the others.
Why these replies fail
“Lol ok cool, I'm talking to other people too so no pressure”
Lying to seem unbothered comes across as insecure and she'll know you're lying if you weren't already talking to others
“That's cool. So how many guys are we talking about here? And are any of them serious?”
Asking follow-up questions about the other guys makes you seem hung up on the competition instead of focused on her
“Ok, well I guess I know where I stand then. Good luck with them.”
This reads as bitter punishment and kills your shot by making it seem like you're upset she's being honest
Common mistakes
- Getting defensive or angry, which makes you look insecure and gives her a reason to drop you
- Launching into a speech about how you could be different or better than the others
- Matching her energy with 'I'm talking to other people too' when you're not, just to seem unbothered
- Going silent to punish her, then texting later with a bitter tone
- Asking a bunch of follow-up questions about the other guys or how serious it is
Questions people ask
- Should I tell her I'm also talking to other people even if I'm not?
- No. If you're not, don't lie about it. She'll either figure it out or lose respect when the truth comes out. Keep your reply simple and move on from the topic. Lying to match her energy just backfires.
- Does this mean she's not interested in me?
- Not necessarily. Early dating is naturally non-exclusive. She might be interested and just covering herself. She might also be testing the waters with a few people before deciding. The real test is whether she makes time to see you after saying this.
- When should I ask her to be exclusive?
- Not now. If things go well over the next few dates and she keeps making time for you, she'll either bring it up or her behavior will show she's narrowed focus. Pushing for exclusivity right after she told you about other guys looks insecure and desperate.
- How many more dates do I give this before I move on?
- One solid date. See if she's still engaged and making plans. If after that she goes quiet or keeps deferring, stop investing. Don't wait six weeks for someone who's keeping you warm as a backup option.
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