What to text when he says he's talking to other people
How to respond when he tells you he's dating others. Keep your reply grounded, honest, and focused on what you actually want next.
He told you he's talking to other people. This is a real moment. He's either testing the waters to see if you'll back off, being transparent about where his head is, or signaling that he's not ready to focus on you yet. Any of those require a response that doesn't over-correct.
A good reply does two things at once. It honors what he actually said (no pretending you didn't hear it) and it tells him what you're willing to do. You're not trying to convince him you're the one. You're just being clear about your own move.
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He's telling you his boundaries, not asking permission
When someone says they're talking to other people, they're drawing a line. Sometimes it means he wants to keep options open until he feels sure. Sometimes it means he's not interested in exclusivity at all. The mistake is treating it like a problem to solve.
What matters is whether you can actually operate under those conditions. Not whether you think he might change his mind. He's showing you how he wants to date right now. Anything you say should assume that's his real position, at least until his actions show otherwise.
Say yes or no to the actual situation
Your reply needs to do one job: tell him whether you can keep going with this knowing what he just told you. That's it. You're not trying to make him jealous, prove you're cool, or wait him out. You're giving him real information.
If you're fine with non-exclusive dating for now, say that clearly. If you need him focused on you to keep investing, say that too. Either way, speak like someone who knows what she wants, not someone who's negotiating.
Send it and then live your actual life
Send your reply when you're calm and it reflects what you actually mean. Don't send it twice or add to it an hour later. Once it's out, stop monitoring his response time.
If he replies and you two keep talking, the ball is in his court to either commit or keep things light. If he doesn't reply, that tells you something too. Wait at least a week before you follow up. If he ghosted after bringing it up, that's your sign that this isn't going anywhere.
Why these replies fail
“ok lol that's fine. I'm talking to other people too so we're good”
You're lying to match his vibe, which just delays the problem and makes you look like you're playing games
“wow okay. I guess I thought we had something more here but if that's what you want”
This is guilt-tripping dressed as acceptance and will push him away faster than a straight no
“no problem at all. just let me know if you ever want to focus on just us”
You sound like you're waiting on the sidelines, which gives him the green light to come back when he's bored
Common mistakes
- Going silent to 'show him what he's missing' signals you're hurt, not cool with it
- Matching his energy by saying you're also talking to others when you're not
- Over-explaining your feelings or asking him to justify his choices
- Agreeing too quickly to be casual when you actually want something more
- Asking him to 'let you know if things change' which sounds like waiting
Questions people ask
- Should I ask him why he's talking to other people?
- No. Asking 'why' puts him on defense and turns it into a conversation about his choices instead of yours. He already told you the fact. Your reply is about what you do with that information, not his reasoning.
- Does saying I'm okay with it mean I have to keep dating him?
- No. You can say you're cool with it now and change your mind later if you see he's not moving toward exclusivity. Saying yes to the current situation doesn't lock you in forever.
- What if I want to be exclusive but he doesn't?
- Say that directly. 'I get it, but I need someone focused on me to keep going.' Then stick to it. Don't agree to casual dating hoping he'll catch feelings and change his mind.
- How long should I wait for him to reply after I text back?
- At least three to five days before you decide his silence means something. If he does reply, that's good. If a full week goes by and nothing, that's your answer.
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