What to text when she says you're not her type but keeps talking
She said you're not her type yet still messages you. Here's how to reply without pushing harder or fading away.
When someone says you're not her type but continues the conversation, she's sending a mixed signal that usually means one thing: she finds you interesting enough to keep around, but she's not feeling romantic momentum. She might be lonely, enjoy the attention, find you funny, or just like you as a person without the spark.
Your reply has one job: don't make it weird. Don't try to convince her you actually are her type. Don't get defensive. Don't suddenly become super available. A good reply acknowledges what she said without drama, stays lighthearted, and keeps the door open if her feelings shift.
The difference between success and failure here is whether you treat her rejection as final (it isn't) or as a challenge to overcome (it is, and you can't).
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She's telling you the truth about her first impression. She's not seeing you as a romantic option right now. But she's also voluntarily spending time talking to you, which means something is working. Maybe it's your humor. Maybe it's that you listen. Maybe she just likes the attention. The fact that she told you directly instead of ghosting is actually a good sign. She respects you enough to be honest.
Don't read this as 'if I'm patient, she'll come around.' Read it as 'she sees something in me that's worth her time, just not in the way I want.' That's the actual situation. Working from there means you're not delusional.
Stay casual and don't argue with her taste
Your reply needs to do two things: show that you heard her and that you're not wounded by it, and keep the conversation normal. Don't say 'that's cool' in a way that sounds defeated. Don't launch into 'well actually, I think you'd like me if you got to know me.' Don't suddenly act like you have zero interest.
Instead, move past it. Make a light joke. Respond to whatever she said next. Act like someone who is fine with where things are. This works because it removes the pressure she might feel about rejecting you, and it keeps her comfortable talking to you. If attraction is going to build, it happens in the moments when she's not thinking about whether she should like you.
When to keep going and when to fade
Send one solid reply that doesn't make a big deal out of what she said. Then continue normally for maybe another week or two of occasional texts. If she's still initiating and the conversations feel natural, you can keep it going. If you're always the one starting and responses are short or slow, that's your signal to stop investing energy.
If nothing changes in a month and you're still feeling attraction to her, you have to make a choice: accept the friendship or pull back. Don't hover in the middle for six months hoping her feelings shift. That wastes your time and makes it harder for both of you.
Why these replies fail
“Haha no worries, what is your type though? I might surprise you”
Sounds like you're trying to negotiate or prove her wrong, which makes the rejection awkward instead of moving past it.
“Ok cool, I'm gonna head out then. Good luck with everything”
Too abrupt and punitive. It tells her you were only interested in romance and now you're gone, which feels cold.
“I mean I think you might be surprised if you actually gave me a chance. I'm not the average guy”
Directly argues with what she said and makes it defensive, which pushes her away and makes future conversations uncomfortable.
Common mistakes
- Asking what her type is or what would make you qualify. Sounds like you're trying to negotiate attraction.
- Going cold or ghosting to prove you have options. Comes across as bitter and closes the door permanently.
- Ramping up flirtation or intensity to change her mind. Pushes her away because she already told you where she stands.
- Over-explaining yourself or defending your worth. Makes the conversation about your feelings, not hers.
- Treating her like a friend too quickly. Locks you into a friend zone dynamic that's hard to escape.
Questions people ask
- Should I try to change her mind by being a better version of myself?
- Not directly. Trying to prove she's wrong about not being into you feels needy and usually backfires. If you naturally become someone more interesting through your own life, attraction can shift. But she has to do that shifting herself. Your job is to just be normal and not make it weird.
- Does 'not my type' mean she'll never be interested?
- Usually it means not right now. But people's preferences change. If she keeps talking to you and finds you funny or interesting over time, attraction can develop. The catch is you can't force it. You have to stay cool and let it happen naturally, if it happens.
- How long should I keep texting her if nothing romantic happens?
- If she's really engaging and you enjoy the conversations, there's no deadline. If you're waiting around hoping she changes her mind while ignoring other people, give it a month. Then decide if you're okay with just friendship or if you need to move on.
- What if she starts flirting or showing signs she's interested?
- Things can shift. If her behavior changes and she's initiating more, sending you flirty stuff, or trying to see you, that's different from the original message. Respond to what's actually happening now, not what she said before. People change their minds.
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