What to say when she wants to stay on Hinge until she knows you

Look at what she actually wrote. She said she likes talking to you and she named a condition, which is knowing you better. That is a pacing request. It tells you she is still interested and that the thing standing in the way is trust, not chemistry. The phrase "until I know you a bit better" also tells you she expects the conversation to continue and eventually move somewhere. If she had wanted out, she would have said so, or she would have gone slow and vague instead of naming a plan.

The other thing to read is how long you have been talking. Ten days on Hinge with real back and forth is a normal stretch before someone wants to move off the app. If you have only matched yesterday and she is already asking you to stay put, the message is closer to a boundary, and the reply should be shorter and less eager. Know which situation you are in before you write anything.

A good reply does three things. It takes her preference at face value, so she does not have to defend it. It shows you are comfortable staying where you are for now, which lowers the pressure she feels. And it gives her an easy thing to respond to on the app, like a question about something she mentioned, a plan you could both make, or a light opinion on something in your conversation. The goal is for the next message to be a natural continuation, not a new request.

Keep the tone relaxed and specific. Refer back to something she actually said so she knows you were listening. Avoid making a point of the phone number or the other app. The more you talk about moving off Hinge, the more the Hinge conversation looks like something you are trying to get out of, and that is exactly what makes people cautious.

Send your reply at a time that fits the rest of your conversation, not in the middle of the night when you have been thinking about it for hours. A reply that comes in ordinary daytime hours reads as easy. Give it a normal gap, roughly the same as your usual response time, rather than replying within seconds, which can read as anxious, or waiting a day to look unbothered.

If she does not reply, wait a few days and send one short, low-stakes message that continues the conversation on the app. Do not send a follow-up asking whether she got your message or whether you did something wrong. If she still does not respond after that, the conversation has ended, and the pacing question no longer matters. Stop there. A second chase after that turns a mild preference into a reason to unmatch.