What to say when he texts constantly but cancels plans

This specific mismatch means something. A guy who texts you every day but bails on plans is not bad at planning or forgetful. He's managing his options. He likes the feeling of your attention and the door staying open, but he's not ready to actually prioritize you. The constant messaging is maintenance, not interest. It keeps you engaged without him having to commit to time or money or his physical presence. Watch what he does when you make a concrete plan. If he gets quiet, becomes vague about timing, or cancels last-minute, that's the real signal. The daily texts were just noise.

Your reply needs to flip the dynamic. Right now he gets all the reward (your attention, your engagement, your enthusiasm) with none of the risk (actually showing up). A good reply stops playing along with the messaging game. Don't text him back until he confirms the plan with a specific time. Don't ask him how his day was or keep the conversation going. Don't send cute follow-ups or try to build connection through texts. When he messages you about random stuff, reply short or not at all. This isn't punishment. It's stopping the free pass. The only reason to engage is if he's locking in a real date with a time and place. If he notices and asks why you're quieter, that's the moment to be direct about what you need.

Give him one more shot, but make it count. The plan needs a specific day, a specific time, and a specific location. Something like Friday at 7pm at the coffee place on Main. Text him this plan, not a question. Ask him to confirm by X date and time. If he confirms and actually shows, great, see where it goes. If he goes vague, flakes, or gets quiet, you have your answer. Don't ask for explanations or give reasons. Don't suggest a reschedule. Just be done. The point is not to punish him. The point is to stop wasting your own time on someone who isn't treating you like a priority.