What to say when he sends you a generic text he's using on everyone
How to reply when a guy texts the same message to multiple girls. Stand out without calling him out.
He's testing the waters with a bunch of matches at once. The message is low-effort, probably copy-pasted. It could be 'hey what's up', 'what are you up to', or something equally broad that requires nothing from him.
A good reply here doesn't pretend you don't know what's happening. It doesn't get angry or preachy either. Instead, it subtly signals you have standards and won't perform for a generic opening. You're answering his actual question, but you're doing it in a way that requires him to step up if he wants to keep your attention.
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The generic opener signals low investment from him
When a guy sends the same text to five girls, he's not picking you. He's casting a net and waiting to see who bites. That's not inherently disqualifying, but it tells you something. He hasn't looked at your profile, he hasn't thought about what you might actually want to talk about, and he's not willing to risk anything on making a real impression.
The fact that it's generic doesn't mean he's not interested in the right girl. It means he's interested in whoever responds quickest or warmest. Your job is to signal that you're not auditioning for his attention on those terms.
Keep it brief and don't fill his silence for him
A good reply is short. Answer his question without elaborating. If he asks 'what's up,' you could say 'not much, what about you' or give a one-line answer. Then stop. Don't ask follow-up questions. Don't try to steer the conversation into something more interesting.
When you keep it minimal, you're communicating two things. You noticed his message required minimal effort, and you're willing to match that energy while leaving room for him to do better. If he actually wants to know you, he'll dig deeper. If he's just cycling through matches, he'll move on to someone who gave him more to work with.
Wait for him to ask something real before investing more
Don't send another text for at least a few hours, and only if he responds first. If he disappears after your short reply, that's information. He was never really interested in talking to you specifically. If he does come back with an actual question about you or something from your profile, that's when you engage more.
If three days pass with no follow-up from him, stop texting. Don't send a double-text or try to revive it. A guy who's interested finds a way to show up, even if his first message was lazy. You're not responsible for making generic texting feel like a real conversation.
Why these replies fail
“hey! not much just scrolling through my phone haha, how about you? what are you up to tonight?”
You've answered enthusiastically and asked him questions back, which rewards his low effort and puts you in the position of carrying the conversation.
“lol is this the message you send to everyone?”
Calling him out looks defensive and gives him a reason to either ghost or apologize without actually changing his behavior.
“[no response, waiting for him to text again]”
Staying silent after a direct question reads as disinterest rather than a boundary, and he'll just move to the next girl.
Common mistakes
- Playing along too hard and giving him a long, friendly response that rewards his laziness
- Calling him out directly ('lol are you sending this to everyone?') which makes you look bitter
- Going silent, which he'll interpret as disinterest rather than a boundary
- Asking him personal questions back, which shifts the burden to you to carry the conversation
- Over-explaining or over-defending yourself in your response
Questions people ask
- Does a short reply make me look uninterested?
- Only if you're uninterested. A short reply just signals you're not going to perform for a generic opener. If he comes back with something real, respond with actual warmth. Your brevity is about matching his energy, not about playing hard to get.
- What if he never texts back after my reply?
- Then he wasn't going to invest in you anyway. A generic opener followed by silence tells you he was browsing, not connecting. You haven't lost anything. Move on to matches who show up with real intention.
- Is it okay to ask him why he sent such a boring message?
- No. It comes across as critical or insecure. If he's worth your time, he'll figure out on his own that generic texts don't work. Your silence or short replies teach him that without you having to say a word.
- Should I send him a fun or interesting message to impress him?
- Not after a generic opener. That flips the dynamic and makes you the pursuer. Wait for him to show he's actually curious about you first. If he never gets there, that's the answer.
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