How to reply when he says he's talking to others but wants to meet
He's being honest about juggling options but still interested in you. Here's how to respond without looking desperate or dismissive.
When someone tells you they're talking to other people, they're either testing whether you'll stick around or being transparent about how dating apps work. Either way, they still want to meet you, which means the door is open.
Your reply has to acknowledge what he said without pretending it doesn't matter. Ignoring it makes you look naive. Freaking out makes you look like you assumed exclusivity before a first date. The goal is to show you're cool with the reality of dating while making it clear you want to see where this goes.
Don't use this as a strategy. Be direct back. You can meet people while they're meeting people. What matters is what happens when you're actually together.
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He's not saying he doesn't want you. He's saying he hasn't decided yet, or he's being transparent because past matches got upset. Some guys mention other options early to manage expectations. Some do it because they're unsure about where things are going with you specifically.
The fact that he still wants to meet you despite mentioning other people is the real signal. He's giving you information and an opening in the same message. If you were already ruled out, he wouldn't bother.
Acknowledge it plainly then steer toward making concrete plans
A good reply does two things at once. First, it shows you heard him and you're not going to spiral or make it weird. No shame, no judgment, no pretending you didn't process what he said. Second, it pivots immediately toward actually meeting up. The conversation should go from 'I'm talking to others' to 'so when are we hanging out' without drama in between.
You're not claiming exclusivity. You're not matching his casual tone by pretending you don't care. You're being straightforward back. Yes, I'm interested. Yes, I know how this works. Let's find out if we click in person.
Let him name the actual day and time first
Send your reply quickly if he's just mentioned other people. Don't overthink it. But do not lock in a specific date or time until he actually suggests one. Guys who are juggling options often say they want to meet but then take a week to coordinate. If he's serious, he'll follow up with an actual plan within a day or two.
If he goes silent after you reply positively, he's probably not as invested as his initial message suggested. You waited for him to move. He didn't. Move on. Don't send a follow-up text after three days.
Why these replies fail
“Oh that's fine, I'm talking to other people too! Good luck with them lol”
You're competing and he knows it. This sounds like you're keeping score instead of just being honest.
“Okay but when we meet you'll realize I'm the only one you need to talk to ;)”
You're overconfident before a first date and putting pressure on him to validate that prediction.
“[no reply]”
Silence reads as either hurt feelings or disinterest. It leaves him guessing and gives him no reason to push for a date.
Common mistakes
- Getting defensive and listing all the other people texting you back. It reads as score-keeping.
- Saying 'no worries' and matching his energy exactly. This makes you sound relieved to have low stakes.
- Going silent instead of replying, hoping he'll chase you harder.
- Asking who he's talking to or wanting details about the other person.
- Over-explaining your own situation when a simple 'yes' is enough.
Questions people ask
- Should I tell him I'm talking to other people too?
- Only if it's true and it matters to you to say it. Don't invent options to match him. If you are actually talking to others, a casual mention is fine. But the point of your reply is to move toward meeting, not to trade dating resumes.
- Does him mentioning other people mean he's not interested in me?
- Not necessarily. It could mean he's being transparent, managing expectations, or just being honest about early-stage dating. The fact that he still wants to meet you is what counts. His interest shows up in whether he actually follows through with a date.
- What if I'm upset he's talking to other people?
- That's valid, but you need to separate your feelings from your reply. If you're looking for exclusivity before meeting, you're setting yourself up for hurt on apps. Meet him first. Then you can decide if exclusivity matters. Don't punish him in your text for doing what most people do.
- How long should I wait before following up if he doesn't reply to my response?
- Wait at least two full days. If he doesn't respond after that and doesn't come back with a date proposal, assume he's moved his attention elsewhere. Don't send a second message. You've given him a clear opening. His move now.
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