What to say when he says come here

When someone says "come here" in text, he's usually asking you to show up physically. He might want to hang out at his place, meet him somewhere specific, or continue a conversation in person. The vagueness is often intentional. It puts the ball in your court without him committing to a full plan, which tells you something about how much effort he's putting in.

Pay attention to context. Did you two already have chemistry or a prior connection? Is this early in talking to him or later? Is he saying this after you've been flirting, or out of nowhere? A "come here" after weeks of texting back and forth reads differently than one from someone you just matched with. Also notice the timing. Late night "come here" messages usually mean one thing. Weekend afternoon ones usually mean another.

Your response has two jobs at once. First, signal whether you're open to seeing him without giving him a free pass to summon you whenever he wants. You're not saying yes to every demand or no to all of his offers. You're saying yes to the idea of him, but on terms that show you have a life outside this interaction.

Second, get specifics. A good reply either names a time and place you'll actually show up, or it asks him to do the planning work instead of leaving it vague. Don't agree to "come here" without knowing what that means, where it is, or when. Asking clarifying questions also forces him to think about whether he actually wants to see you or if he was just testing your response.

Send your reply within a few hours, not immediately and not days later. Waiting too long makes it seem like you forgot about him or you're playing games. Replying instantly reads as too available.

If he doesn't respond to your counter-offer or your question within 24 hours, he wasn't serious enough to follow through. People who want to see you will make a plan. If he goes silent, don't send another message chasing clarification. You asked the right thing. His lack of response is your answer.

If he does come back with a real plan, then you decide based on your actual schedule and comfort level. But never agree to vague "come here" requests just to seem easygoing. Guys who want to build something with you will name a time.