What to say to a Hinge match who is a journalist and loves long-form podcasts
What to say to a Hinge match who's a journalist and loves long-form podcasts. How to read her profile and write a reply that gives her something to answer.
A journalist who lists long-form podcasts on Hinge has told you two things at once. She listens to people talk at length and she thinks for a living about what people mean. That makes generic openers like "how's your week going" land flat, because she has heard a thousand of them and her job is to notice when a question is empty.
What a good reply does here is show you actually listened to one specific thing she cares about, and then ask her a question that only she can answer well. The aim is not to prove you are smart. It is to make it easy for her to talk about a show or an idea she likes, which is the thing she already enjoys doing.
Do not try to match her credentials or name-drop reporters. She will spot that fast. Pick one concrete detail from her prompts or photos and let your message stay about that.
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Her profile is a test of whether you read it
When someone writes a whole line about the shows they binge, she is usually hoping for someone who will ask about the show, not the job. Journalists get asked "so what's the most interesting story you've worked on" constantly, so that question tends to get a polite, rehearsed answer. A question about a particular episode or argument she obviously cares about gets a different response, because it shows you paid attention to her, not just to her occupation.
Read the prompts for what she is proud of or annoyed by. An opinion about a show is more useful to you than a job title, because opinions are what people enjoy defending. If she has taken a strong position, you have an easy opening that does not require you to know much at all.
Asking about her take, not the topic
Once you have one specific thing to refer to, the shape of a good message is simple. Name the show or idea in a few words, then ask what she made of a particular part of it, or where she landed on a disagreement. The question should have room for her to say something she has actually thought about, and it should be easy to answer in a sentence or two so the conversation keeps moving.
Keep your own opinion short. One line of your view is enough to give her something to push against. If you write three paragraphs, she has less to respond to and will probably just reply with a single agreeing word.
Let her set the length of the chat
Matches who write long-form content often send replies that are longer than average, and sometimes they take a while to get back to you. Do not read a slow reply as a sign she has lost interest. She may be drafting something thoughtful. Wait a day before you follow up, and if her answer was long, you can reply in kind. If her answer was short, keep yours short too.
If you have asked her a question and she has answered it fully and then gone quiet, that is usually the end of the thread for now. Let it sit. Coming back a few days later with a new, specific thing from her profile is a better move than sending a second message about the same show.
Why these replies fail
“I love podcasts too! What's your favorite one?”
It asks for a list she has to think up on the spot and gives her nothing of yours to react to, so it reads as a generic opener.
“So you're a journalist. That must be really interesting. What kind of stories do you usually cover?”
It ignores the podcast detail she included and asks her to describe her job, which she has explained in every interview she has ever given.
“Serial season one is so overrated, it's just a murder mystery with a podcast host. Have you heard the other seasons?”
It opens with a contrarian dismissal that makes her defend her taste before she has said anything about herself, which turns the first exchange into an argument.
Common mistakes
- Opening with a question she could answer in one word, like "do you like podcasts?"
- Quoting her profile back at her word for word so it reads like you skimmed it
- Trying to sound as well read as her, which turns the chat into a contest
- Asking her to explain her job in general instead of asking about a specific story or episode she mentioned
- Sending a long paragraph of your own podcast opinions before she has said anything back
Questions people ask
- Is it okay to bring up a podcast on the first message?
- Yes, if you refer to a specific show or episode from her profile and keep it short. A podcast she listed is an open door because she has already signalled she enjoys talking about it. Avoid naming a show she did not mention unless you have a clear reason to think she would like it, since that can come across as a guess.
- Should I mention that I'm also into journalism?
- Only if it is a real and specific interest, and even then keep it to a sentence. Journalists are used to people who want to talk about their work and often find that tiring. Asking about her take on a story or show is more useful than telling her about your own connection to the field.
- What if she replies with just one word?
- Treat a one-word reply as the end of that line of conversation and try a different angle later. Do not follow up with a question about the same topic right away, because it will feel like pressure. Wait a day or two and come back with a new detail from her profile, or send a light comment that does not require an answer.
- How long should I wait before messaging again?
- If the conversation stopped after a full, thoughtful exchange, a few days is a reasonable gap before you send something new. If she has not replied to your last message at all, one follow-up after a few days is fine, and then let it go unless she responds. Two unanswered messages in a row is the point to stop.
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