What to text a guy who looks really good

A good-looking guy's inbox is full of messages that say some version of 'wow, you're hot' or 'you're so cute'. These messages tell him nothing about you. They also signal that you made a decision about him in seconds, based only on his appearance. He knows those messages aren't thoughtful. They're efficient. When you're competing with dozens of other people saying the same thing, a generic compliment makes you sound like everyone else, not like someone worth his time. The subtext he hears is that you swiped fast and didn't read his actual profile.

First, prove you actually looked at his profile. Pick something specific from his photos or bio that only someone who read it would know. Maybe he's holding a guitar in one photo, or his bio mentions a job or hobby or travel plan. Reference it by name or detail. This single move separates you from the copy-paste crowd. Second, ask him something or make an observation that requires a real answer. Don't ask yes-or-no questions. Ask why he does something, what draws him to it, how long he's been doing it. Give him material to work with. A message that does both things signals you see him as a person first and an attractive person second.

Send your message the same day you match, while the connection is fresh. Don't wait three days or strategize about timing. After you send it, give him at least two to three days before deciding he's not interested. Attractive guys get a lot of messages and sometimes miss good ones. If he doesn't reply after three days, send nothing else. No follow-up, no modified version of the same message. Move on. If he does reply, respond within 24 hours. Keep the conversation moving by asking another question or bringing up something he mentioned. The goal is to move toward meeting in person, not to have an extended text friendship.