What to say on Tinder to a girl obsessed with true crime podcasts
How to reply when she mentions true crime podcasts. Stand out by engaging her interest without trying too hard.
True crime podcast obsession tells you something real about how she spends her time. But it's also everywhere on dating apps. Most guys either ignore it or make a joke about her being a serial killer. That never works.
A good reply acknowledges what she actually said instead of treating it like filler. Ask about her specific taste, reference something you know about the true crime space, or find a real connection point. Show you read her profile and have thoughts. Don't just be polite.
Timing matters less than specificity. Write something that doesn't sound like everyone else's opener. She's tired of copy-pasted messages, so showing you listened cuts through.
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She's telling you what holds her attention
True crime podcasts mean she spends hours a week on something specific. That matters. It's not a personality type. What matters is that she led with this, so it's either her main hobby or she's testing whether you'll engage.
The trap is treating it like everyone else does. True crime mentions are so common that most guys skip over them or make the same killer jokes. She knows this. If you reference something real about the genre or ask a question that shows you actually know what you're talking about, you'll stand out.
Ask about her specific taste, not the genre
Don't ask 'which podcasts do you listen to' like you're taking notes. Everyone asks that. Instead, pick a lane. Are we talking Serial and investigative journalism, or Dateline recaps? Does she like solved cases or mysteries? Does she want narrative or two hosts talking through cases?
You can also comment on something about true crime culture itself. How podcasts have made amateur investigation a real thing. How they've changed actual cases by bringing attention to them. This shows you've thought about the space, not just heard it exists.
Wait for her reply before you keep talking
Send your message and see if she responds. Don't follow up with more questions or add thoughts in a second text. If she engages, you can have a real back and forth about what she listens to or what case she's been following.
If she doesn't reply within a few days, move on. True crime interest doesn't guarantee she's active on the app. Some matches just ghost. Send one good message and see if it lands. That's it.
Why these replies fail
“haha so you're gonna murder me? 😂”
The serial killer joke is the most overused response to true crime mentions. It signals you didn't think for three seconds before typing.
“oh cool what podcasts do you like”
Too generic. Reads like you're checking a box, not actually interested in her answer.
“I love true crime too! My favorite is Crime Junkie, they're so good. Have you listened to them? I could talk about cases for hours lol”
Mirroring her interest and talking about yourself before she's even replied makes it about you. Not a conversation.
Common mistakes
- Making a joke about her being a killer or having murderous tendencies. Tries too hard and lands creepy instead.
- Asking 'which podcasts' with nothing else. Reads like you're interviewing her, not having a conversation.
- Pivoting to something else on her profile instead of engaging what she brought up.
- Over-explaining that you also listen to true crime to seem relatable. Comes across as forced.
- Sending a long message about true crime facts or your opinions before she's even replied to you once.
Questions people ask
- Should I pretend to like true crime podcasts if I don't?
- No. You can engage with the topic without claiming to be a listener. Ask what got her into it, or comment on something you've heard about the genre. Honesty is easier than faking interest you'll have to keep up.
- What if I actually listen to true crime podcasts too?
- Reference a specific episode or case you've been following. Not just the genre. Give yourself something real to bond over instead of just saying me too.
- Is it weird to bring up the ethics of true crime podcasts?
- Not if you do it naturally. Questions like 'do you think it's fair to profit off real tragedies' can spark good conversation. Just don't sound preachy or like you're testing her morals.
- How long should I wait before asking her out after matching?
- A few messages in, if the conversation is flowing. True crime interest doesn't change the timing. If you've had three or four back and forths and there's real rapport, suggest meeting. Don't drag it out.
- What if she doesn't reply to my message?
- Accept it and move on. One good message is all you get. If it doesn't spark a reply within three to five days, she's not interested or not active. Don't send a follow-up.
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