What to message a match who loves true crime podcasts
How to text someone obsessed with true crime. Stand out by asking the right questions and showing you've actually listened.
True crime podcast fans aren't just into the genre. They've spent hours with specific hosts, cases, and theories. They likely have strong opinions about which shows are overrated, which cases are unsolved for good reason, and which hosts actually do the research.
When someone lists true crime as an interest, they're telling you they value detail, narrative, and the ability to sit with uncomfortable material. A good reply shows you recognize this specific passion instead of treating it like any other hobby mention.
Your message should either ask something that reveals her actual taste in the genre, or reference a specific show or case in a way that invites her to go deeper. The goal is to start a conversation where she gets to be the expert, not to prove you know true crime too.
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Someone who loves true crime podcasts has probably listened to dozens of episodes. They know the difference between a show that does real investigation and one that's mostly entertainment. They have opinions about hosts, about which cases are handled respectfully, about whether solved cases belong on the medium at all.
When she mentions this interest, she's not just saying she likes podcasts. She's likely spent time forming opinions and maybe even researching cases herself. Your message should treat this as a real interest with depth, not a surface-level hobby.
Ask what separates her favorites from the rest
A good reply acknowledges that not all true crime is the same. Ask which show she keeps coming back to, or which case stuck with her, or what makes a host worth listening to for 100 episodes. The move is to ask a question that lets her tell you what she actually values about the medium, not just confirm that she likes the genre.
You can also reference a specific show you've heard about and ask if she's listened or what she thinks of it. The idea is asking something that requires her to have an opinion, not just confirming that the interest exists.
Send early in the day and give her a full day to reply
Send your message when you'd normally be awake and talking to people. Avoid late night. True crime fans often listen to episodes during commutes or evening wind-down time, so she might see your message when the podcast isn't on.
If she doesn't reply within 24 hours, don't follow up immediately. Wait at least two days. If there's still no reply after three days, move on. No response to a solid question means she's either not interested or busy. A second message won't change that.
Why these replies fail
“omg I love Serial too! Season 1 was insane”
Everyone who's heard of true crime has heard of Serial. This doesn't show you know anything specific about her taste.
“be careful, I'm basically a serial killer profiler at this point”
It makes the conversation about you and your joke instead of about her actual interest.
“that's so dark lol. what's the creepiest case you've listened to?”
It judges her interest instead of treating it seriously, and the question is too generic to spark real conversation.
Common mistakes
- Naming a mainstream show like Serial or My Favorite Murder without adding a real question or take
- Making a joke about her being interested in murder instead of asking what draws her to it
- Asking 'have you listened to...' without saying why you think she'd like it
- Treating it as small talk instead of a door into what she actually thinks about these stories
- Pivoting immediately to yourself instead of letting her answer first
Questions people ask
- Should I pretend to like true crime if I don't?
- No. Ask real questions about why she loves it instead. You can be interested in someone without sharing every hobby. Ask what draws her to specific cases or hosts, and listen to her answer. That's enough.
- Is it weird to ask if she's listened to a show I haven't?
- Not at all. Say something like 'I've heard a lot about [show] but haven't listened yet. Have you?' This shows you know something exists and invites her opinion without pretending expertise.
- Can I reference a case without knowing all the details?
- Yes, but frame it honestly. Ask her about it instead of stating facts. Say 'I've heard people talk about [case]. What do you think of how it was covered?' This lets her be the expert.
- What if she doesn't reply to my first message?
- Wait three full days before deciding she's not interested. True crime fans listen during specific times, so she might not see it right away. After three days with no response, move forward.
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