What to text back when he says he doesn't text much

A lot of people text less. Some check their phone once a day. Some forget to reply for hours. Some find long text chains draining. This is not coded language. When someone tells you their texting style, they usually mean it.

What matters is that he said he enjoys talking in person. That's the real signal. He's telling you where his energy goes. Don't reinterpret his words as hidden interest or play detective about what he really means. He's being direct. People who text infrequently often switch on when they're actually with someone. The lack of texts between hangouts isn't about you being unimportant.

Your reply should show you heard him and then move toward the next time you see each other. Don't make him text you a lot just to nail down basic details. Light mention of a specific thing you could do together. A time frame that doesn't demand back-and-forth texting to confirm. Something he can say yes or no to without it needing three more messages to lock in.

This does two things. First, it proves you actually respect what he said instead of just nodding and continuing to message him constantly. Second, it removes friction. He doesn't have to choose between ignoring texts (which feels rude) and texting back (which he doesn't enjoy). You're making the path easier.

After you reply, don't send another text for at least a few days. This is not a game. It's just how people who don't text much work. If he said he doesn't text much, texting him twice in one day proves you weren't listening. He needs space to notice your message and respond on his schedule.

If he doesn't reply after four or five days, send one more short thing. Just one. After that, let it sit. If he's interested, he will reach out. You're not being ghosted. You're respecting that his communication style is just slower. If weeks pass with nothing, that's your signal to move on. But don't confuse a slow texter with someone who isn't interested.