Respond when she only wants to hang out after drinking

A drunk text about hanging out is real interest, but it's not a firm plan. She's lowering her inhibitions to reach out, which is good. The problem is she may not follow through sober, or she may only contact you this way. If this is the third or fourth time she's texted drunk plans and gone quiet during the day, she's not avoiding you out of shyness. She's comfortable with you as an option when she's uninhibited, but not motivated enough to plan with you clearly.

The pattern also tells you something about how she moves through dating. Some people drunk text everyone. Others are using it as a way to take the pressure off a conversation they want to have but feel nervous about sober. These are different situations and your reply should account for that.

Your job here is to take her interest and convert it into something that survives until morning. Don't just say 'yeah, let's hang' and wait for her to suggest a time tomorrow. She texted drunk, so the logistics might not stick. Instead, propose something specific for a sober hour, a time that's deliberately not late night, a place that's normal to visit, nothing that screams you're only available for booty calls.

You're also signaling that you operate on your own terms and in your own time. You're not canceling your Friday to wait for her 11pm text. This shifts the dynamic from her controlling when you connect to you both having agency. She can accept the plan or not, but you're not solving the problem of her drunk texting by being too flexible.

Send your reply with the specific plan, then step back. Don't text again within 12 hours unless she asks a clarifying question. If she was interested, she'll see it in the morning and confirm. If she doesn't, that's your answer about whether this pattern is worth your time.

If she confirms, great. Show up. If she goes radio silent after saying yes, or if this repeats more than twice without a real hangout materializing, you're looking at a pattern where she only engages when tipsy. At that point, stop being available for drunk-initiated plans. You can still reply, but with less enthusiasm and no concrete suggestions. She'll either take real initiative or fade. Both outcomes are cleaner than being stuck in drunk-text purgatory.