What to do when she cancels twice but keeps texting you

Two cancellations in a row is not bad luck. It's a pattern. What matters is what she does after. She keeps texting. This is the tell. She's not ghosting you because there's still value in the connection for her, but she's not investing effort to meet you because the cost of canceling is zero.

She may actually like you. She may be busy. But her actions are showing you that the relationship lives in text only right now. She's chosen low stakes. When someone wants to see you, they move mountains for a first coffee or drink. They don't cancel twice and then keep messaging like nothing happened. Read the cancellations as the main signal, not the texts.

The move here is to propose a specific time and place, then make her decision matter. If she says yes, great. If she cancels again, you now have real information. She's not going to show up. That's worth knowing.

Your message should be brief, assume she still wants to meet, and give her one clear option instead of many. Don't ask her what works or when she's free. Don't say 'let me know what fits your schedule.' That's asking her to put in effort, which she's already shown she won't do. Lock in the time. If she can't make it, she'll tell you. Her response will tell you whether she's actually interested or just texting to keep the option alive.

Don't initiate after she cancels twice. Wait for her to send something. This is not punishment, it's information gathering. If she goes quiet, you have your answer. If she texts you first, you know the interest is real enough for her to reach out.

When she does text, reply normally but then hit her with the specific plan. Give her a window of a few days to lock it in, not weeks. If she cancels a third time, stop proposing. You've tested it. She's shown you she won't commit. At that point, be friendly if she texts but don't chase dates anymore. Let her prove she wants to meet by actually following through next time.