What should I put in my Facebook Dating bio?

When a woman scrolls through Facebook Dating, she is skimming. The bio is the one place where you get to say something in your own words, so it carries more weight than it looks like it should. She is looking for signs of a person with a point of view, a sense of humor, or a specific life. Vague warmth like "easygoing and kind" tells her almost nothing, because nearly everyone writes it. What stands out is a concrete detail: the thing you are currently bad at, the odd habit, the opinion you hold a little too firmly. Those give her something to agree with, disagree with, or ask about. If she has to guess what you are like from your bio, she will usually move on.

Think of the bio as a set of doorways. Each line should be something she can walk through by sending one message. Say you mention that you are trying to learn to cook a particular dish and keep failing. That is an easy opener: she can ask what you have tried, or offer her version. A bio that says you love reading gives her nothing to walk through. Keep it to two or three lines, each with a different hook, so she has options. Do not explain each hook. Leave the detail unfinished so she has a reason to ask. A good test: read it and ask whether you could answer the obvious follow-up question. If you could, the hook works. If the only follow-up is "cool," the line is too flat.

Some lines make a bio harder to answer, not easier. Lists of rules for potential matches, such as "no games" or "must be ambitious," read as a warning before any warmth shows up. Lines that joke about your ex or the last app can make her wonder what she is walking into. Political or religious statements are fine if they are part of your life, but a bio that is only a position statement gives her no one to talk to. Also cut the cliches that appear on most profiles, because they do not separate you from anyone. If a line could be copied onto a stranger's profile without changing a word, replace it with something only you would write.