She told friends different things about you: what to do

A single mismatch between what she told one friend and what she told another is usually about how she summarizes things, not about what she wants from you. People round off and emphasize differently depending on who they're talking to. If she called you her boyfriend to a close friend and said you were casually seeing each other to a coworker, that could just mean she is still figuring out where things stand.

The pattern matters more than any one line. Ask yourself whether her behavior toward you matches the more generous version or the more guarded one. If she is consistently warm, makes plans, and follows through, the friend-talk is probably noise. If she is vague about plans, cool when you try to define things, and the flattering version only shows up when she is talking about you to someone else, you are reading something real.

The useful move is to get her to say, in her own words, where she thinks you two are. You can do this without quoting anyone. Keep it about what you want and what you're noticing in general terms, then ask her what she thinks. Something about wanting to be on the same page is enough.

What you need to see is whether she can answer plainly. A direct person will say what they feel even if it's uncomfortable. Someone who keeps the ambiguity, or who answers with a different version than the one she gave a friend, has shown you something important. Pay attention to whether she gets defensive when you ask a simple question, because that tells you how the conversation will go if things get harder.

After you send a direct question, give her real time to answer. A day is reasonable for a text. If she replies with warmth and a clear statement of where she stands, you can decide whether that matches what you want. If she goes quiet for several days or replies with a joke that dodges the question, that is an answer too, even though it isn't one you wanted.

If you get no reply, send one short follow-up at most, not a second essay about the friends. If that goes unanswered, stop trying to resolve the gossip and decide whether you want to keep investing in someone who won't tell you what she thinks. You don't need a confrontation. You need her to show up, and if she won't, you have your information.