She seems excited but keeps cancelling? What to do

Some people are very warm in text and really do like the attention, but they're bad at committing to a time. Texting costs them nothing. Showing up costs a bit of energy, a change in plans, and the risk that it won't be as good in person. So the messages feel big and the follow-through stays small. That gap is the thing to watch.

The useful question isn't whether she's excited, because she clearly is about the idea. It's whether she'll lock in a specific time and keep it. If she's cancelled twice in a row, the pattern tells you more than any single message. One cancellation with an apology and a quick reschedule is normal life. Repeated cancellations with vague promises are information.

When she cancels, reply briefly and warmly, then suggest one concrete option with a clear time and a low-effort format. A thirty-minute coffee near her work is easier to confirm than dinner across town. Offer one plan, not a menu. If she says yes, you have an actual date. If she dodges or suggests vague later times again, that tells you something.

It also helps to pick something she can do even if her week is chaotic. Lower stakes mean fewer reasons to back out. You're not testing her with a hard ask. You're making showing up the easiest option she has.

Decide in advance what counts as enough. Two cancellations, each with a fresh plan, is usually a fair chance to see whether things change. If she cancels a second time and the new plan falls through too, or she ignores the suggestion, you have your answer. Pause the planning. Say you'd like to keep chatting if she wants, but you're not going to keep rearranging.

Don't end it with a passive-aggressive message. A short, calm note that you're stepping back from making plans is enough. You don't owe a speech, and you don't need her to agree. The point is to stop putting more of your time into a pattern that hasn't moved.