Text her about wanting something long term

When someone brings this up, they're usually not trying to reject you. They're trying to make a decision about what comes next. She may have been wondering the same thing. The fact that you're asking means she doesn't have to anymore.

If she's been pulling back or seems uncertain, that's often just confusion, not disinterest. People hesitate about commitment because they need to know it matters to you in the same way it matters to them. By naming it directly, you're actually making it easier for her to say yes.

Your reply needs to do two things. First, ask the actual question without wrapping it in an apology or a justification for asking. Second, give her space to answer without feeling like she's being tested or judged for whatever she says.

Avoid the trap of listing reasons why long term would be great or why you think she'd want that. Just ask what you want to know. If she needs context on why you're asking now, she'll ask. If she doesn't, extra explanation only sounds defensive.

This is a real question that deserves a real answer, and real answers sometimes take time. She might need to sit with it. She might be thinking about how to be honest. She might just be busy.

If she doesn't respond after three or four days, send one follow-up that's short and low-pressure. Something like 'No rush, just want to know where your head's at.' After that, you're done. If she doesn't answer a direct question twice, the answer is telling you something already.